I thought it was great, the way it's not what you think it's going to be. Livejournal have suspended my entry outing the psychopath. Oh well. I need to move on anyway. I had my first counselling session on Monday, which brought it all up and prompted a drunken night, but I'm hoping it's going to help in the long run.
I love country music, and that's one of the reasons right there. Toby Keith sings a song: I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was.
ha ha ha ha ha
As for forgiveness, it's not about being pious and sacrificing. It's a gift that you give to yourself. It takes time but it feels great and you can't really move on without it. What is KEY is understanding that forgiveness does not mean to trust the untrustworthy. It's just feeling the emotions and letting them go. With no anchor to hold them inside, the memories start to disintegrate.
I don't think I'll ever forgive, but I just don't care about him very much any more. My life has moved on. Weirdly, I dreamt about him the other night. I was aware that I was dreaming and that if I wanted to I could wake up and stop it, but I wanted to see where it would go. There was no emotion there, and he was just a character in my dream who could have no effect on me. I woke up feeling fine. How odd.
That's pretty much what forgiveness is ... letting it go and moving on. It's about you; it's sure not about him. Do you think he cares if you forgive him or not? Highly unlikely. Forgiveness got all convoluted by dogmatic religion. It's not about making the other guy feel better ... it's about getting on with your life.
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A++++, and I don't even really like this genre! (Unless it's Nick Lowe making the attempt.)
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Moving on is one thing. Forgiving? Fuck that shit. Some things are truly unforgivable.
*echos Hokey's toast*
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ha ha ha ha ha
As for forgiveness, it's not about being pious and sacrificing. It's a gift that you give to yourself. It takes time but it feels great and you can't really move on without it. What is KEY is understanding that forgiveness does not mean to trust the untrustworthy. It's just feeling the emotions and letting them go. With no anchor to hold them inside, the memories start to disintegrate.
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I don't think I'll ever forgive, but I just don't care about him very much any more. My life has moved on. Weirdly, I dreamt about him the other night. I was aware that I was dreaming and that if I wanted to I could wake up and stop it, but I wanted to see where it would go. There was no emotion there, and he was just a character in my dream who could have no effect on me. I woke up feeling fine. How odd.
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