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[megsbrightstar]

See, part of me wants to diet, and the other part doesn't. There's something about being 200 pounds at the age of 18 that scares me. It doesn't seem like too much to me until I also take into consideration how young I still am. Maybe I should allow myself 10 lbs per year; for example, 200 lbs at 20 years, 210 lbs at 21, 220 lbs at 22, etc... I

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[mistermemm]

speaking as as 19 year-old someone who's hovered around 200 for the last couple of years (after being around 150 before that), it's not the biggest thing in the world. granted, i'm a guy, but still. what's tripped me up many times over the years is the misconception that if i don't gain up to 400, i'm not doing it right or i'm "quitting", which is absurd; you can do whatever you feel comfortable with. and i've got to say, i'm friends with numerous girls who are in the high 200s-300s who are popular, well-dressed, are comfortable with themselves, and have lots of friends. it's definately possible to have a normal life being big, but you need to banish the self-doubts (or at least keep them at arm's length, like i've been trying). i'd suggest visiting dimensions, as there are a lot good bbw role models who'd probably give you the insight you want

[megsbrightstar]

Oh, you're 19? Only a year older than me! Are you in college

[mistermemm]

Oh, I'm 5'9-10" btw, so not extremely tall, but average

[eatwell]

There is no such thing as "normal" although there are ideals created by the media....and peer pressure. I fully understand your anxiety over this issue, but you have clearly stated how you feel about being plump/fat, and how you want to have fat arms, legs, etc. In the end you have to please yourself, and nobody else. What I do think is that you are worried about numbers...i.e. weighing 200 @ 18 yrs old...etc. To that I would say forget a certain weight altogether! Really! Quit weighing yourself! Eat, enjoy life, get as fat as YOU want to, and to hell with what everybody else (including me) thinks about it. As for the opposite-i.e. dieting, I think if you do it now it will be for all the wrong reasons, i.e. the aforesaid peer pressure, weight in pounds anxietyu, etc. If you decide to diet, do it only because YOU want to.

Sorry, I hope that I am not preaching?

[megsbrightstar]

Yes, ideals... And what is my ideal? I would consider the perfect person, or at least the perfect body, as very slim, fit, and muscular: a body capable of anything; of running marathons and climbing mountains. I desire for myself something other than perfect... it just seems wrong. Ah, why does pudge feel so good? Why is gaining weight so fun? Why is food the best thing in the world?!

I will quit weighing myself; for certain.