I haven't forgotten about this

[mellofellow13]

Meme reply #3.

Megan asks, "I want to hear about how things are now! Like, are you dating anyone? Do you have any roommates? give me updates!"

Comments

[meggygurl]

As you know very well, I am possibly the most cynical one in our little "group" from high school (though... this is debatable). I dated... a lot. I thought I was in love a lot. For a very long time I was addicted to the "falling in love" part of a relationship. the nitty gritty actual relationship bored me. Also, I was a lesbian trying to force myself to be with men

[mellofellow13]

Thanks Megan! I think I still need to figure that out - what it is I really want. It's really counterproductive to be picky and not know what I want. It's a lot easier to identify what I *don't* want. For example, there was one girl I knew in Charleston who I found very interesting and easy to relate to, who was moderately attractive and we got along well. There were just a few things about her though that were on my list of things I really, really don't like about a girl, and it counted her out entirely. I'm glad I didn't go for it anyway because I'm positive it would not have worked out well at all, but it's situations like that which make things a little difficult and force me to use my head more often than not.

I do appreciate the inspirational words though - I actually agree with you but it's one of those things where I'd be happier if I knew what to expect. :) Much love, Megan!

[professor_shoe]

Hey, man... I date for food. To each their own, eh? ;)

[mellofellow13]

Nothing wrong with that. :)

[friedfly]

I personally think dating two or three girls who require some compromises just for the practice is just good sense - what if Ms. Right comes along, but you blow it on something obvious 'cuz you haven't had some experience? I realize this is a totally unromantic view, but, well, hey, engineer. :)
I can totally see being cautious of the potential results, but trust yourself that you're strong enough to recognize and handle it if it heads too far in the wrong direction.

[mellofellow13]

I don't disagree with you, and that's why I have actually made minor efforts to date some girls I knew, mostly because they were girls I figured would be pretty harmless in the end if it didn't work out. I'm confident around women and I don't mind at all spending time one-on-one with them, and I'm not the type that feels any sort of immediate pressure in those sorts of situations, so I'd like to think that I don't really need "practice" as much as I need an opportunity. If I feel like it's going the wrong direction from the start, it just won't be an enjoyable experience for me and I wouldn't feel like it's worth it.

I'm not too afraid to take risks, but for me it has to make sense at least on a basic level. I'm sure you understand what I'm saying even though I'm doing a real crap job expressing it, lol.