Yah, it kind of blew my mind a little when I read about it. I can understand from Drea's comment about how it's a celebration of entering motherhood and all. But I think that at least in my area, that's not what a baby shower is for anymore. Seems like it's turned into just a party for the baby and not the mother these days.
And in the places where it has been, the "no two showers" rule has gone the wayside. ;)
Around here, it's still the "no two showers", but you'll still frequently have a "diapers and wipes" shower for the second. You might have a second full shower if there are extenuating circumstances, like a "surprise" baby later in life when the other baby stuff in long gone. But my mom is pissed off about a shower she was just invited to, where it's the second baby and the older child is only 3 years old and same gender. So it is still observed.
Perhaps it's the, "We already gave you baby stuff and you should just reuse all of it! (despite the fact that the first child probably vomited/soiled/ripped/tore/ruined everyhing within reach of their tiny chubby hands and the second/third/fourth child will be garbed only in rags of Horror which will cause that child to be the outcast of preschool, eventually to become an axe murderer due to early exposure to their older siblings' dried/washed bodily fluids. :)
Just a though. I'm with you on the no-kids thing, and it may just be a "We don't want to keep throwing you a party 'cause you can't get your man to wear a rubber!" thing. (obviously not with your friends. :) )
Showers are supposed to be welcoming someone into motherhood. You only make the transition from non-mom to mom once, so you only get one shower. It's the same reason you don't usually have showers for second marriages.
I don't know why people seem to think you can't get baby gifts without a shower. But throwing a party for the purpose of getting gifts for a second (or third, fourth, or fifth) baby is tacky.
Hmmm. I suppose if you look at it from the entering motherhood aspect, it makes sense. But I've always just assumed that showers were to help out the mother since it can be expensive with a new baby. I'd also never heard that it was tacky to have showers for second weddings. I guess that shows what kind of family I was raised in
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Around here, it's still the "no two showers", but you'll still frequently have a "diapers and wipes" shower for the second. You might have a second full shower if there are extenuating circumstances, like a "surprise" baby later in life when the other baby stuff in long gone. But my mom is pissed off about a shower she was just invited to, where it's the second baby and the older child is only 3 years old and same gender. So it is still observed.
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Just a though. I'm with you on the no-kids thing, and it may just be a "We don't want to keep throwing you a party 'cause you can't get your man to wear a rubber!" thing. (obviously not with your friends. :) )
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Unfortunately, There's no course requirements for having babies these days. There should be.
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I don't know why people seem to think you can't get baby gifts without a shower. But throwing a party for the purpose of getting gifts for a second (or third, fourth, or fifth) baby is tacky.
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