wooowww I'm not sure what to say, but your mum sounds pretty pushy @_@ You have to ask her to go out..? I have to agree with you about Christians though, I always have to tell myself 'not every Christian is like this' because the ones i knew/know in real life are really pushy and preachy about it. (one of my friends in secondary school was...he even bought me the 'manga bible' because i liked manga...wtf it was weird)
I guess it's not long til you leave now so try your best to ignore it? Like you said if she hasn't taken a degree and doesn't have much experience with art she shouldn't really be telling you what's what. Maybe she's just channelling her worries about you leaving. What course is it you'll be taking/where?
City and Guilds London (http://www.cityandguildsartschool.ac.uk/) - foundation course. I don't know... I guess she is probably freaking out I'm moving, but shes driving me crazy.
+ Lol; those manga bibles suck so bad, they are drawn terribly o-O; I think there are some christians in the world that don't preach to people everyday, but my mums one of those ones that does :/ I kind of do have to ask her if I can go out, as she can never really say no, she justs makes me feel guilty and going out and says I should be studying or doing something productive... like I can't do those things out >_<;;;; *sigh* I'm sure the time will pass soon...
Oh cool :O What kinda degree/where are you planning to go after that? I've never really done art stuff so i dunno what's what. (Graphic Design myself)
Yeah haha i know, they're really bad. What's more is he knew I'm heavily atheist (which we talked about often) and hate crap manga, but he got me it anyway o.o as if I'd be like 'wow yay it's manga it must be good!!'
You need some off time, it's not like you can study 24/7. She'll probably ease up once she realises how well you'll cope by yourself.
Thanks (: Yeah I hope so, just stressful at the moment.
I'm thinking about a lot of directions, I used to mainly be interested in fine art, but I'm thinking about all the cool things I could take *w* I think I will see what I enjoy most next year, who knows ^^ I love graphic design - but I'm terrible with computers :( And haha, people that don't really understand anime just think anything with bug eyes will be just as good as any other anime/ manga xD
yoohooo my mum is fairly evil but she isn't too constant like yours. mine works differently, she is never happy with what I do, my degree, as soon as she found out I had a middle grade, she lost interest in the end, with these type of people, you can never make happy but DON'T let her bring you down, I got really ill when I was younger to put on these headache reducing (and something else, i was fairly ill at some point) tablets because my parents were putting so much stress on me just look forward to the future, do what you want within reason, its not as if you're a bad person
Sounds like you've been through a simular thing :/ Thank you ^^, Its hard not to be put down, but my friends and Robert helps (: Always helps to rant on LJ ^^
Hehe, I'm Christian, but I'm cool - i.e. I'm a really shit Catholic and I know how fucked up our faith is, but I'm still into it 'cos I ship bling, incense, wine and young men in cassocks.
I compromised with my mum over my husband - I wanted to sleep with him properly since I was 17 and rather than keeping any secrets, we agreed that so long as I was fairly sure he was the one (and I made sure of that) as after all, you can only give your virginity once (so it's good to make sure it's a man who deserves it! ♥), we decided on contraception and everything. So yes, sex before marriage, but it was only a few years before marriage :D
I think she IS trying, just failing in execution. Parents can be like that, they only want what is best, even if they are wrong/hypocrital.
You will LOVE being independent as a proper student :D I was wanting to get away so badly when I was your age!!!
I have to say I wouldn't of thought instantly you were a christian, but I respect your morals.
I think she is kind of trying to prepare me or something like that.. but it is just so damn annoying >_< I really can't wait to move out, being a student looks so fun *w* Thank you for your thought, it helps (:
Actually, I'm christian, too! My mom is a sort of a hippie, so my faith is pretty lax. But my Mom is also, very, very emotional, which was very hard on me growing up, and is very hard on my little sister now. (I always got told I had ruined christmas, every single year!) As I got older, it became easier to take it in stride and realise it had nothing to do with me or what I did. After I started college our relationship eased. I still can't tell her everything, though I share a lot. She gets stressed out very easily, so I have to be careful what I say to her- nothing about rent going up or hours being cut. Despite all that, she's the most fun Mom anybody ever had, and I love her to pieces. TL;DR: Chin up, it's not your fault. things will get better. You might very well find some distance is exactly what you both need.
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I guess it's not long til you leave now so try your best to ignore it? Like you said if she hasn't taken a degree and doesn't have much experience with art she shouldn't really be telling you what's what. Maybe she's just channelling her worries about you leaving. What course is it you'll be taking/where?
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I don't know... I guess she is probably freaking out I'm moving, but shes driving me crazy.
+ Lol; those manga bibles suck so bad, they are drawn terribly o-O;
I think there are some christians in the world that don't preach to people everyday, but my mums one of those ones that does :/
I kind of do have to ask her if I can go out, as she can never really say no, she justs makes me feel guilty and going out and says I should be studying or doing something productive... like I can't do those things out >_<;;;;
*sigh*
I'm sure the time will pass soon...
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Yeah haha i know, they're really bad. What's more is he knew I'm heavily atheist (which we talked about often) and hate crap manga, but he got me it anyway o.o as if I'd be like 'wow yay it's manga it must be good!!'
You need some off time, it's not like you can study 24/7. She'll probably ease up once she realises how well you'll cope by yourself.
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I'm thinking about a lot of directions, I used to mainly be interested in fine art, but I'm thinking about all the cool things I could take *w*
I think I will see what I enjoy most next year, who knows ^^
I love graphic design - but I'm terrible with computers :(
And haha, people that don't really understand anime just think anything with bug eyes will be just as good as any other anime/ manga xD
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my mum is fairly evil but she isn't too constant like yours.
mine works differently, she is never happy with what I do, my degree, as soon as she found out I had a middle grade, she lost interest
in the end, with these type of people, you can never make happy but DON'T let her bring you down, I got really ill when I was younger to put on these headache reducing (and something else, i was fairly ill at some point) tablets because my parents were putting so much stress on me
just look forward to the future, do what you want within reason, its not as if you're a bad person
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Thank you ^^, Its hard not to be put down, but my friends and Robert helps (:
Always helps to rant on LJ ^^
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I compromised with my mum over my husband - I wanted to sleep with him properly since I was 17 and rather than keeping any secrets, we agreed that so long as I was fairly sure he was the one (and I made sure of that) as after all, you can only give your virginity once (so it's good to make sure it's a man who deserves it! ♥), we decided on contraception and everything. So yes, sex before marriage, but it was only a few years before marriage :D
I think she IS trying, just failing in execution. Parents can be like that, they only want what is best, even if they are wrong/hypocrital.
You will LOVE being independent as a proper student :D I was wanting to get away so badly when I was your age!!!
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I have to say I wouldn't of thought instantly you were a christian, but I respect your morals.
I think she is kind of trying to prepare me or something like that.. but it is just so damn annoying >_<
I really can't wait to move out, being a student looks so fun *w*
Thank you for your thought, it helps (:
Your probably the coolest christian I know o-O
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TL;DR: Chin up, it's not your fault. things will get better. You might very well find some distance is exactly what you both need.
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