I've done the "ex-Stalker" thing now and then to see what they're up to. I think it's only natural to be curious what happened to someone you were close with.
I've been contacted by one ex (the one where I crashed after we split up a few years ago) and we stay in periodic touch via email or AIM. I still haven't been the one to drop her a note to say hi, but when she pings me I'm perfectly okay to chat with her....so I guess I still have a bit of baggage if I'm never the one to initiate communications.
My most recent ex I haven't heard from since we split in 2006 -- but I do wonder if she'll ever be a student in one of my classes or if I'll bump into her at a conference. While the latter is easy to deal with, how would I react if I was "stuck" teaching her for 5 days sometime? I dunno how I'd feel, but I do get a quick wave of fear when I check my new class rosters to see if she's listed. :)
I on the other hand can't leave my exes alone.. even when we broke up I've been with all of them again. I don't know why it is either... There's only one I've ever really wanted
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It was a wretched relationship, but I don't think we could be "friends" really because of the amount of sexual passion and intensity. It's hard to back track from that to friends.
I dated almost all of my exs a second time, and each time I was like.. "Oh yeah! That's why it didn't work," but you are right it was nice to know almost everything about them without the awkward "Getting to know you" phase.
I am not jealous about any of them moving on (except maybe one, but he was my first good boyfriend), because I know that each one of them has qualities that any woman would be lucky to have.
So, you don't think there is any problem with contacting exs or do you think it's best for them to contact you?
And on a completely different note... Munchkin! We saw some people playing it, but we didn't know how to play. We keep wanting to grab a deck and learn.
My LJ speaks to the trials and tribulations of trying to contact old exes that never seem to work. I also can say after going through a very painful experience lately myself (see recent posts), I can say that I don't know if I would still talk to that person or not. It would really depend on how that relationship dissolved and what they wanted to get out of a future conversation. That is very much a case-by-case basis honestly.
*nods* I agree. If the relationship ended well, then things should go well, but if things didn't... It would be trickier. However, the second (sometimes third, fourth, and fifth) time around is the time you realize that it isn't salvageable.
Sometimes you just need to know when to walk away, right? I think you know who I was referring to in my response to hagakaze, which is one I should just walk away from.
Well I've done alot of wondering about "what-ifs" myself. And while I have looked up 1 or 2 (some only beening friends that moved or drifted away
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I've done the "ex-Stalker" thing now and then to see what they're up to. I think it's only natural to be curious what happened to someone you were close with.
I've been contacted by one ex (the one where I crashed after we split up a few years ago) and we stay in periodic touch via email or AIM. I still haven't been the one to drop her a note to say hi, but when she pings me I'm perfectly okay to chat with her....so I guess I still have a bit of baggage if I'm never the one to initiate communications.
My most recent ex I haven't heard from since we split in 2006 -- but I do wonder if she'll ever be a student in one of my classes or if I'll bump into her at a conference. While the latter is easy to deal with, how would I react if I was "stuck" teaching her for 5 days sometime? I dunno how I'd feel, but I do get a quick wave of fear when I check my new class rosters to see if she's listed. :)
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I dated almost all of my exs a second time, and each time I was like.. "Oh yeah! That's why it didn't work," but you are right it was nice to know almost everything about them without the awkward "Getting to know you" phase.
I am not jealous about any of them moving on (except maybe one, but he was my first good boyfriend), because I know that each one of them has qualities that any woman would be lucky to have.
So, you don't think there is any problem with contacting exs or do you think it's best for them to contact you?
And on a completely different note... Munchkin! We saw some people playing it, but we didn't know how to play. We keep wanting to grab a deck and learn.
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Sometimes you just need to know when to walk away, right? I think you know who I was referring to in my response to hagakaze, which is one I should just walk away from.
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