If he is drinking enough to puke blood and then going back at it the next day, he has a serious medical problem that you cannot help him with. He needs to do it himself. I hope he does, for your sake.
as someone who lived with 2 alcoholics, allow me to say that until he hits whatever rock bottom is for him, he will not change. in my experience, you will hit rock bottom before he will. also, AA will only work if he does it for himself. people who go for any other reason will probably not last. you need to find an Al-Anon group(family support) and learn how this is not your problem or your fault. as I'm sure you know alcoholism is a symptom of the problem, not the actual problem. the drinking is how J forgets the problem. to most reasonable people, vomiting blood would be "rock bottom". that he still went on drinking tells you volumes about his road ahead. you need to focus on not being co-dependent with issues you can't control. by the way, the only thing you CAN control is your reaction to situations that come your way. sorry to not have better news. you need to take care of yourself. J is not your responsibility. he's free, white, and over 21. he needs to take responsibility for himself.
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sorry to not have better news. you need to take care of yourself. J is not your responsibility. he's free, white, and over 21. he needs to take responsibility for himself.
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I hope that he realizes what he stands to lose if he doesn't get it together and get the help he needs.
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You can call if you need to....I don't know your schedule.
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