Comments | mermaidnchains: Safer Sex

mermaidnchains

Safer Sex

Oct 05, 2010 00:02

Dear Gentle Reader -

Considering that I am in an open relationship, discussions about safer sex come up now and then. Its kind of interesting the built in preconceptions, rules, and boundaries each person assumes is the norm for said safe sex.

Some think safe is all latex covered everything. No oral, no touching, no nothing. Some are more OK with ( Read more... )

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ser_kai October 5 2010, 10:18:30 UTC

We use condoms with non primary or very STD nervous partners. We don't sleep with anyone new unless there is a very, very good chance they're clean (Jamie has slept with 5 women ever, 2 in his teens and it had been a long time since he'd slept with his last ex-- he's very, very selective) and after a getting to know you period. We like to be thoroughly tested at least every six months if possible. I have had difficulty getting tested of late (stoopid government) so I'm hyper vigilant about any symptoms, only sleep with Ja (& Je when he's in the country) anyway and get tested for Chlamydia(most common) and HIV(duh).

I would dearly love to go back to full testing but it isn't really possible right now. Besides, I'm physically monogamous for the time being.

mermaidnchains October 5 2010, 13:29:25 UTC

In using condoms do you also use them with Oral sex? You do not have to answer, its just part of the curious diversity of people. :)

ser_kai October 5 2010, 13:38:43 UTC

No but as sexual partners have to wait and as I'm reasonably selective (noone I haven't known for some months/years and generally in my social circle), I don't really see that as a problem.

Safer Sex ... anonymous October 5 2010, 15:38:35 UTC

To be honest I've never really looked too closely into all the different ways that safe/er sex could be practiced ... My main thought has always been to avoid pregnancy counting on those measures (condoms) to prevent any other problems. This question, however, brings up some very interesting ideas. Ones that I will have to discuss with my primary as well as with any other partners that I may or may not have in the future. While I've known those who use the fingers crossed method of safe sex (Crosses fingers and hopes that this partner is safe) I know that even in a so called monogamous relationship there are still STI risks. (The one and only bout I've ever had with one was from my, now, ex wife ( ... )

Re: Safer Sex ... mermaidnchains October 5 2010, 19:42:23 UTC

I would find it difficult to conduct a romance with a condom in my mouth for kissing. How about the rest of you readers?

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Re: Safer Sex ... mermaidnchains October 20 2010, 04:10:55 UTC

Feel free. :)