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mermel

post-gretchan summer

Jul 31, 2002 23:16

my summer post-gretchan has been getting better. There was a brief time when I was inconsolable, three weeks of pure gut-wrenching, heart-breaking, mind-crushing, will-breaking pain. But I came out of it, slowly, with the help of a really sappy support group and a girl named Phaedra (she gave me her number and helped me out in seeing myself again ( Read more... )

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helen August 1 2002, 14:16:24 UTC

You never told me you and Gretchan had broken up. I'm sorry. I'm glad you seem to be semiokay now.

I'm sad I'm not going to be back in CA this month as I had planned. I was looking forward to seeing you again. That is, if you even wanted to see me again after my behavior that night in May. Me + weed = humiliation & disgrace. I'm really sorry about that.

Have a good rest-of-summer.

humiliation? mermel August 3 2002, 13:02:15 UTC

you didn't humiliate yourself helen! and i didn't tell you 'cause it hadn't happened yet - reason enough. though i really would've liked to talk to you about it, get some of that helen insight. Actually, could you spare some? All of the necessary info is in the journal - what would you do in my situation?

Re: humiliation? helen August 4 2002, 11:57:51 UTC

Hmm, well, I've never had my heart broken quite that badly, and I don't have any new and enlightening bits of wisdom to contribute, but I'll give you what I've got. Speaking as someone who's rarely suffered too much from breakups because I've usually known that there was someone else ready and willing to take the place of the ex (whether I actually got together with that new person or not), I'd say you're on the right track. I think the best way to recover from a breakup is to find someone else, even if it's just a casual rebound thing, or at least to go out and meet some people so you remember that there are other fish in the sea. Otherwise you're in danger of continually thinking about the person you broke up with and thinking you'll never meet someone like that again and you'll be alone and miserable forever. As soon as you realize that you're still an attractive and lovable person and there are other people out there who will be just as good for you, you're on the way to being OK ( ... )

Re: humiliation? helen August 4 2002, 11:59:15 UTC

istory, please let me know.

[stupid lj cut off the end of my comment.]