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[merzb]

it's hard for me to show appreciation - i realised. I find it extremely hard to just show emotion when someone leaves - like my therapist said she felt it was a pity that our sessions were finishing, that she enjoyed our sessions - and  I felt exactly the same, and I was not able to verbalise it at ALL. My physiotherapist yesterday told me it was

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[4kudzu]

Can you start by giving yourself a compliment that you can actually accept?

I have the issue of not believing people when they say they care, I think it's just to shut me up or 'cause it's easier or nice or something, but not truly how they feel. Mostly I feel like a burden to others, and I can't imagine why they'd want me around. So yeah, I have issues too. As far as I know my mother wanted me, so they don't stem from infancy. I had my issues when I was a teen.

I think you just gotta start by recognizing it wasn't your fault. If someone doesn't want you, that's on them. Put the blame where it belongs, you know. It may not be awesome to hate anyone, but it's better than hating yourself for no reason. And maybe after that, in time, you can forgive them. Just gotta work on yourself first.

[deepseasiren]

I think our entire lives are lived just trying to find that balance between self-love in a good way and self-sabotaging love that comes across as being too hard on ourselves and being unforgiving of ourselves. Especially as women. Women can be especially hard on themselves/ourselves. I find that when I give compliments especially to other women, I really do feel good about myself to have brought a smile to someone's face, you know? I make it a poiint to do it every day, and when someone smiles and is happy, it brings me happiness too :)

[apollinnaire]

"I was reminded many times how stubborn I was, even in the womb, resisting all the attempts of my mom to induce a spontaneous abortion. Isn't that just fucked up?" > Nope, it's not fucked up. It only goes to show how resilient you are and the immense life force that you have in you, that has carried you through great adversity in the past and that will continue to carry you through. You might not believe this yet, but you're incredibly strong. I'm glad you're here. I'm glad you made it as a tiny baby and then again, many, many times as a grown up. I'm glad you're here. <3