I think that if you want to talk to someone about privilege, you should have some sort of actual goal in mind. To be poor is a form of anti-privilege. To be white is usually form of privilege (if you're a white person in Zimbabwe, being white might get you murdered). Few people are entirely privileged or entirely unprivileged. Even a poor black person has more privilege than a starving quadriplegic black person, for example.
People focus on their privilege relative to the people around them, and someone who feels they have less power than others is going to feel unprivileged, regardless of how shitty things are for other people. If your goal is just to say, "it's better to be a poor white person than a poor black person," he probably already knows that. If your goal is something beyond that, you might try starting from a different angle closer to your goal.
My goal is to get him to acknowledge that privilege exists and to understand how it works.
Well, my larger goal involves seeing if I can repair my relationship with him after years of problems of which the politics are only a part (but an important part, to me).
I have met very few people who did not acknowledge that on average, white people have it better than black people. If he already believes this, he will probably not see the point of your privilege argument, because it seems just be rehashing the obvious. If he doesn't believe this, if he thinks for example that black people have it better because of AA or something, then he's not going to believe in privilege
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Those are my top links (42!) though maybe half are focused on scifi genre fandom.
And Tim Wise (http://www.timwise.org/) is pretty much the go to white guy on this subject.
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http://www.youtube.com/user/illdoc1
Elon James White will not help you talk wtih your dad, but he is flipping hilarious
http://www.youtube.com/user/bccofilms
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People focus on their privilege relative to the people around them, and someone who feels they have less power than others is going to feel unprivileged, regardless of how shitty things are for other people. If your goal is just to say, "it's better to be a poor white person than a poor black person," he probably already knows that. If your goal is something beyond that, you might try starting from a different angle closer to your goal.
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Well, my larger goal involves seeing if I can repair my relationship with him after years of problems of which the politics are only a part (but an important part, to me).
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