Comments | mg4h: Another sign of growing up

mg4h

Another sign of growing up

Jun 12, 2011 07:54

A new and painful revelation from recent events is that, when a friend is hurting and you offer help, you then really need to back off and let them take you up on the offer. If you continually push them, you make it about you, not about them and their situation, and that can just make it worse ( Read more... )

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tg2k June 12 2011, 13:23:59 UTC

Very much agreed. Not everybody wants help, or at least not your help. (For any quantity of "you", that is.) You can lead a horse to water...but not only may the horse not feel like drinking right now, maybe the water you picked isn't any good, or the horse just doesn't trust you to find water. You get the idea.

I just wish that lesson had been the first piece of so-called wisdom I'd learned. It would have made many things a lot easier as I began developing something resembling half a clue.