Comments | mgs_naughtycat: Growth and Change

mgs_naughtycat

Growth and Change

Apr 03, 2013 15:52

If we cease to grow and change, then we will die.
And so it continues with life.
J and I have been together for 11 years, this past February, and its been a wonderful 11 years. We've grown together and loved together and met amazing people together. But at this point, we both have come to the realization that our paths are not connected in the same ( Read more... )

relationships, farm life

Comments 9

musicman April 3 2013, 20:15:37 UTC

Sending you lots of hugs and positive energy. This is so complicated for all three of you. I'm sorry it is working out this way, but it is what it is. Being as kind and humane to one another through the period of change is my suggestion and hope for you all. I would also try to find a way ASAP to let you family know the wedding is off so they don't put more time and effort into it. If there is anything Red or I can do to help you, let us know!

mgs_naughtycat April 4 2013, 01:02:47 UTC

Actually, this is a really positive change. We are all feeling really good about it. Its just a matter of the details of getting finances straight so we're all self supporting and finding a way to ease out of things so that people don't end up smearing us reputation wise.
I'm sure its going to come up soon with my family. Thankfully they're all far away, so its easy. They aren't putting any energy into the wedding currently since we decided to push it off until 2014 anyway, but I agree, its going to have to come out sooner rather than later.
Its wonderful to be able to progress through a relationship and come out the other side together, strong friends, and still supporting each other through the next phase of our lives.

redhotlips April 3 2013, 23:58:00 UTC

Sending you all love

mgs_naughtycat April 4 2013, 01:04:39 UTC

Thank you, dear, we have an abundance of that, and can always use more!!

PS, Jim's got a roll of backdrop paper, would you be interested in it? Its a neutral gray color that is really nice, 7' wide or so. Jim really doesn't have a use for it if you want it.

musicman April 4 2013, 09:21:12 UTC

Yes, we'll take it. We need to come up to see you guys for socialness, been way too long.

mgs_naughtycat April 4 2013, 17:42:26 UTC

Wahooo! Yes, you do need to come visit us for socialness!! We'll have to connect through email to find some dates. :)

diekonigin April 4 2013, 19:05:28 UTC

Wow, ok so this is the something I missed. I don't know what to say. From wedding plans to separating. Just wow. I'm hoping that NRE isn't clouding anyone's views on this situation. Luck and peace to all of you.

mgs_naughtycat April 7 2013, 18:15:37 UTC

NRE?
It is really time and both of us feel really good about the decision, as surprising as that may seem. This is not a messy breakup and we are still really great friends, and will remain so.

diekonigin April 30 2013, 09:07:14 UTC

New relationship energy. It's a commonly used term in the poly communities.