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[mightymonju]

An uncle of mine, Junior, died about a month ago. He wasn't an uncle with whom I was particularly close --- as a matter of fact, he was the black sheep of my mom's family --- but it still got to me.

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[ravenword]

You cope because you have to. But you never stop worrying about it. I think that's part of what love means; the knowledge that you'd lose something really important and irreplaceable if you lost this person from your life. It is scary, when you think about it. But it's mostly out of your control, so you have to just try to NOT think about it, and enjoy them, and enjoy your lives.

[ellisbell]

I'm sorry you are having to go through this right now. Last year my alcoholic cousin was hit by a car as he was staggering through a park. He sustained horrible internal injuries. He lingered a while in the hospital and then he died. He was a very unhappy person and no one knows if he threw himself in front of the car. The poor woman who hit him said he just appeared out of nowhere. His blood alcohol content was astronomical. I was pretty sad about it - esp. for his poor mom, but personally I was relieved in a way. He had been so miserable - I know if there is anything beyond this life he is happier now.

I worry a lot about my loved ones dying b/c I am far away from all of them. Sometimes it helps to think that if something sudden happened, chances are good I would not have been with them anyway, and the distance doesn't matter. But other times I get very worried and sad. I am also trying to come to grips with these feelings and figure them out.

[sibn]

i can certainly sympathise. death became a regular part of my life over 10 years ago, and there are no signs of abatement (with my parents on the up-and-coming list). but jesus, man. i check your lj every day or three for the last year, and you wait this long, now i feel guilty for slacking.