Grandma and life

[mightymouse21]

Managed to visit my grandma yesterday. She looks much better than when I last saw her, at least not much swelling on the face anymore.

When I approached her, took out the gloves, she was again grabbing my finger tightly, keep looking at me.

Then I realised one thing, the aunts and uncles will start complaining abt how the nursing home might be

Comments

[kellocks]

sorry to hear of your grandma... i think she'd be happy to see you so do visit and when you're able to. i'm sure she appreciates it, even if her current state may not allow her to express it too well. but really, your very presence will be a comfort to her.

and yes, those uncles and aunties... sigh... perhaps you can try put your message across to them through your mom. that might help stop them from discussing such matters in front of grandma. it isn't too nice...

[mightymouse21]

I really hope so that she knows what is appreciation, but she has senile dementia, I slowly steered myself into thinking that she is more like a child now. :(

yup I did, after we left the nursing home. =)

[swimz]

nice that you spent time with her and have some good time with her. I think she really appreciate it.. :)

[seaweeds]

*pat pat*

Visit her as often as you can. Maybe without all the other people.

there is some research which says that in dementia cases, although the cognitions are not there, the emotions still are. So she will be able to feel your emotions. So it does not matter if she recognises or remembers who you are or not - u will be 'recognised' as a fellow human being and she will be able to feel some of your emotions.

And yes, you are right - the family members should try to do the 'negative things' outside to lessen "emotion contagion"

article viz alzheimers (which may be helpful to understand a bit even though your grand mom may not have alzheimers but another form of dementia):

http://consumer.healthday.com/senior-citizen-information-31/misc-aging-news-10/alzheimer-s-patients-mimic-emotions-of-those-around-them-study-676754.html

[pinming]

cherish it while you can. they don't have many years left =) don't let it become a regret!