Sometimes it's definitely not easy. After all the deception on both of their parts though, I would have cut them out of my life immediately. I just don't understand people like that. Best of luck on your young relationship. He's cute :-)
I cut Matt out right away. I would like to have the ability to catch up with my ex, John, maybe for a cup of coffee or something once or twice a year. But the ball is really in his court to show that it matters to him to try to make some attempt at amends. It wouldn't take much, I'm not harboring a grudge. But if John can't make any effort to show he's sorry or wants to make amends (and thereby putting, again, all the effort on me to fix things), I am fine with not having any relationship with him at all.
I find your comments here interesting. I wonder why you would want to "catch up" with someone you clearly can't trust. Do you think you could believe anything from someone who deceived you as routine for years?
As someone who was manipulated and lied to for years (among other things) by someone I formerly trusted... When I finally put all that together, I ended that and worked hard to put all of it behind me. Best thing I ever did was to free myself of that mess.
I was thinking the same thing while reading this. I think what you want to catch up on is a "Fantasy John", which I don't know how much really existed if he had a whole other life and deceit. I understand the heart wants what it wants, but I'd be extra careful with someone you admit knows how to say the right things to deceive you and manipulate you.
Yeah, I generally don't air grievances or issues like that in social media. I feel LJ is ok because only six of us are on here. haha! And honestly, it's no secret among my local peeps what happened when it all came out. I am always kind and civil when I see my ex, though, because that's just how you go about life. He knows my position on things. :)
He's got such a personality. He's super chill, let a clown at the same time. Cuddly and sleepy, yet he'll get super active with other dogs and playful. Just a sweetheart.
What an adorable photo of you and Guster! Sorry about the tragic breakup, but I’m glad to read you’ve pulled through and have new directions. I went through a similar separation with friends two years ago; so I know what you’ve gone through. HUGS
It is an interesting process for sure. My brain knew exactly what healthy courses of action were (which thankfully I followed) but my heart wanted to keep giving him chances or try to "fix" things. Which we all know, doesn't work.
Thankfully my brain is pretty good at overriding bad emotional decisions. lol.
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Best of luck on your young relationship. He's cute :-)
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As someone who was manipulated and lied to for years (among other things) by someone I formerly trusted... When I finally put all that together, I ended that and worked hard to put all of it behind me. Best thing I ever did was to free myself of that mess.
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Hugs sweets.
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Thankfully my brain is pretty good at overriding bad emotional decisions. lol.
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