Comments | mindtheft: Violence Schmilence *May be triggering, be forwarned*

mindtheft

Violence Schmilence May be triggering, be forwarned

Apr 26, 2009 22:29

I had a really shitty experience last night and feel the need to vent about it, yet I've put it off all day. I've probably come back to this livejournal "post an entry" page like 10 times not knowing exactly what to say. Whatever, here it is:

Last night I was assaul...see, I can't even fully write it. It just sounds too dramatic, but that's really ( Read more... )

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montrealais April 27 2009, 03:25:19 UTC

Shit, Kate, I'm so sorry this happened to you. *hugs, if desired*

compasspoints April 27 2009, 04:30:29 UTC

ah! such bullshit! why do people feel like it's ok to touch other people's bodies without consent?!

so glad that you had folks there to band together and kick this asshole out.

fuck! i send fierce love, lady.

mindtheft April 27 2009, 14:00:43 UTC

thanks hon. fierce love is needed :)

iwilldeny April 27 2009, 04:52:58 UTC

Woah, that is so messed up. The questioning is pretty bad, but I can see how some people can just be really awkward and unintentionally asking inappropriate/inconsiderate questions but just groping you like that? How could anybody possibly think that would be okay? I don't think you're being oversensitive about the situation at all. That is just fucked!

mindtheft April 27 2009, 14:03:53 UTC

Honestly, after 2 and a half years of living as an out trans woman I'm starting to believe that a lot of people have social niceties (ie: don't touch other people's bodies, don't ask questions about strangers genitals, don't ask intimate details about a strangers sex life, etc) that go completely out of the window when they know you're trans!

yeopenbooke April 27 2009, 11:23:26 UTC

Has this asshole even tried to apologize to you?

*sends you a bit of strength and comfort*

mindtheft April 27 2009, 13:59:56 UTC

yes they did apologize but I still didn't feel safe with them at the party you know?

Formal legal charging may seem overboard- or? capybyra April 27 2009, 16:49:22 UTC

The perceived safety from repercussions is what makes some person-on person crimes common. Being flatly blunt- they feel no fear of more than a slap if even that. Let alone a trip to jail and explaining their actions to judge/jury... Damn- no one should be touched unbidden! I was going to post a equally disconcerting memory- but yours is enough to reconfirm my stance on handling such incidents. Ban them from the event they violated trusts at certainly. But there's the hanging sword of follow up on this case's perp ( ... )