Warning Triggers about Sexual Abuse

[mings_kitten]

I'm saying stuff here because I have to say, I've cut because you don't have to read

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[mings_kitten]

Ah you see that would come under "acknowledging it happened."...so no.

I really probably should, but then I hit the other factor that keeps me from talking about things with a therapist which is "I don't have a right to complain, it wasn't really that bad, other people have dealt with worse"

Which isn't helpful either...

[mings_kitten]

Yeah you know I've had counsellors tell me that in the past...I really gotta get over the "Oh I don't want to bother you" thing they're PAID to tell with my emotional crap.

[kyttenfae]

*snug* You know, I remember once, over the salt shakers in the "caf," when I admitted I thought I liked girls but I couldn't because /I/ wasn't gay and you used said salt shakers to explain what the Freudian scale was (but didn't say Freud, thank god, cause that would have been it, lolol) and then we got into talking about how I thought for years it was just because I was afraid of men after being abused, and you admitted some of this to me in a way that, looking back, was incredibly brave, because you did it in a "This girl is totally in need of help and if I have to dredge up my worst experiences to do it, well, I will!" way that was massively more mature than your years or experience, and I thank you for being able to do it. <333333333333

[mings_kitten]

*hugs*

[reicreature]

I'm sorry I didn't help you. I wish I could travel back in time and protect you better.

[mings_kitten]

Rei you couldn't have protected me because A) You weren't in the same school as me. and B) I didn't tell anyone what was happening. and C) You had your own trauma you were going through.

Being a teenager sucks but I think I'm a lot happier now than I have in a long long time. I've got a good life and a good relationship with my family. That's letting me get past all the stuff in the past.

[crystalhealer_e]

There will always be someone you will claim that their case was worse but it not what happened to someone it is how it has effected that person. Some people deal with it a lot better and quicker then others, doesn't mean it was not as bad it just means that they were more able to cope and move on........or maybe hide it for years.

My point is that both my sisters and myself were abused by our father and we have all coped? reacted in different ways. But we all went through the same abuse so it is down to how that person can cope with it not the level of the abuse.

I admire you for now coming out and facing your fears and hurts, these hidden fears and hurts could also be why you are physically suffering other bodily ills so maybe going some steps to face this could also help you physically too.... Am I making any sense here?

[mings_kitten]

It could be in that depression makes it harder to care for myself well, and it would certainly help with the panic attacks.

Sometimes it just takes the time to go "You know what? This did happen and it sucked, but I wasn't broken by it."

[decimaldancer]

I wish you had told me. I didn't know how bad it was. I had experiences too. I could have helped in anyway you wanted.

I wanted to help. I did the best I could by getting the boy removed from being with you in class as long as I could and I would have sued the school if I knew they put him back in the class but you told me you could handle it.

I am sad because you couldn't tell me any of this. I thought you knew you could tell me anything at anytime. I wanted that for your protection and now I know (I sort of knew then) I could not protect you at all because you could not come to me and know that I would believe you support you and your Father would have killed the bastards.

[mings_kitten]

I knew I'd be believed, and that you would have done your best to protect me, it took me a long time to figure out why I didn't tell you because I know (and knew then) you would have been on my side