I have lived alone for something like eighgt years, and I love it. I was nervous at first - half thinking that I was hearing someone breaking in, half thinking that it was so damn quiet - but then it was just awesome. No need to be considerate, you can keep things as clean as you want, decorate how you want, everything on your own terms.
It is addictive though. One of my girlfirends, someone who has also lived on her own for a long time, and I joke that if we ever decide to go insane and get married, our husbands are going to have to live next door.;)
As for debt - as long as you're sensible about it and have a plan on how yo're going to pay it off and don't do anything foolish like only pay the credit card minimums, you'll be fine.
Really? I hope that's me someday soon. I WANT to love it. Right now though I feel like I'm just not cut out to be alone...I keep wanting to turn and tell somebody something I'm thinking about and....no one's there. It's just...odd. I'll try to remember what you said about the perks, though!
I lived alone for 3 years, I really enjoyed it but it did get kinda lonely. I remember beig so scared my first night!! Congrats on the new place. Decorating is expensive but super fun!
That's how I feel right now-lonely. I'm sure it will be better during the week when I'm mostly at work and on weekends where I hang out with friends, but THIS weekend has been a beating.
I'm so proud of you! It's a big scary step and I'm soooo jealous! being out there on your own is something that I think everyone should do, at least for the sake of experience. It forces you to know who you are. You'll be fine. More than fine. You're going to be AWESOME.
And two words for you: YARD SALE. You can find really great stuff really cheap for what you need. If not, you can always hit up for your friends for stuff they don't want anymore. ;)
Thank you honey! It's kind of miserable right now but all my friends seem to think it's awesome and it's non-stop congrats which is funny because I'm secretly miserable. I mean, where are all the people!? How does anyone stand themselves for very long? I'm already completely bored with myself.
I have already had some offers from some friends who have moved back in with their families and have furniture and stuff in storage, so hopefully I will have some stuff soon :D
It's ok that you're secretly miserable. Especially after leaving a busy house. Suddenly being alone w/ you is....not as fun as you thought it was. I think it helps to have cable. Awwww.....I'm sorry it's not as fun as you thought it would be! Still, now you know, right? You could always get a roommate and split the expenses, etc. Wouldn't it be fun if your sister moved in w/ you? (maybe not)
Start a new hobby/project! that might make the time go faster. Sing loudly! Sit around in your underwear (or naked, if you're cool w/ that)! Sing loudly! Leave the tv on all night! You could get a cat or something....are you a dog person? I only recommend cats because they tend to be a wee bit more independent than dogs. But dogs are more fun.
New stuff! New stuff!! then you can go to Ikea and drool. Also, never underestimate the power of wallpaper to change a room. Or even furniture! They make some pretty awesome stuff now.
Those are awesome ideas, thank you! Especially the singing loudly. I never cut loose, ever. Maybe I should start with something small like that!
I'm definitely a dog person. No cats for me.
I love Ikea <3 I cannot afford a thing right now, though. My laptop crashed on yesterday. Completely dead. They could not recover any of my data. All my music, my papers, my pictures, my art, my videos, my writing- gone. I literally cannot live without a laptop though so I already bought a new one. I'm not sorry I did it, but my debt has reached whole new levels :/
Living alone is a big adjustment, so allow it some time to get used to. I remember when I moved away from home many years ago, how small and scared I felt (also, the first morning my mom called to tell me my cat back home had been run over. There's never a good timing for that, but it nearly made me move back home again, it was such a bad start to living on my own in a town where I didn't know anyone).
But I got used to living alone and started liking it, and so will you. Relish the good things about living alone - you get to decide everything. And if you don't start liking it, you can share an apartment with a flatmate instead or something like that and be proud of yourself for trying. I know how hard life can be at times, but remember that everything works out in the end, and that you grow with each experince. (Wow, that last part didn't sound cliché at all, did it
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I'll give it some time, thank you for the great advice. The news about your cat is awful. I can't imagine how that must have felt when you were already vulnerable :/
I hope I start liking it. I'm trying very hard not to just give in and ask my best friend to move in with me right away, just in case I regret it later. I want to give this a chance and see if I just need to get used to it, you know?
I haven't been in a serious relationship in years. I'm notoriously single, so no fear of that :) But thank you all the same!
Awww, *hugs* bb. That a huge step in "grown up" life. I Adama slow-clap you on having the guts to make the leap. Remember debt just plain blows,but it is temporary (sometimes it like forever though, I know). I only feel comforted oddly, by the fact I'm not alone in it, no just nationaly but locally. I just saw on a local news staion that next year we have a projected fiscal budget deficit of 400 mil. yeah! (sarcastically) lol :P
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It is addictive though. One of my girlfirends, someone who has also lived on her own for a long time, and I joke that if we ever decide to go insane and get married, our husbands are going to have to live next door.;)
As for debt - as long as you're sensible about it and have a plan on how yo're going to pay it off and don't do anything foolish like only pay the credit card minimums, you'll be fine.
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I DO love decorating :)
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I'm so proud of you! It's a big scary step and I'm soooo jealous! being out there on your own is something that I think everyone should do, at least for the sake of experience.
It forces you to know who you are. You'll be fine. More than fine. You're going to be AWESOME.
And two words for you: YARD SALE.
You can find really great stuff really cheap for what you need.
If not, you can always hit up for your friends for stuff they don't want anymore. ;)
*HUG*
cheers.
--Lex
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I have already had some offers from some friends who have moved back in with their families and have furniture and stuff in storage, so hopefully I will have some stuff soon :D
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Awwww.....I'm sorry it's not as fun as you thought it would be! Still, now you know, right? You could always get a roommate and split the expenses, etc. Wouldn't it be fun if your sister moved in w/ you? (maybe not)
Start a new hobby/project! that might make the time go faster. Sing loudly! Sit around in your underwear (or naked, if you're cool w/ that)! Sing loudly! Leave the tv on all night! You could get a cat or something....are you a dog person? I only recommend cats because they tend to be a wee bit more independent than dogs. But dogs are more fun.
New stuff! New stuff!! then you can go to Ikea and drool. Also, never underestimate the power of wallpaper to change a room. Or even furniture! They make some pretty awesome stuff now.
*hug*
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Those are awesome ideas, thank you! Especially the singing loudly. I never cut loose, ever. Maybe I should start with something small like that!
I'm definitely a dog person. No cats for me.
I love Ikea <3 I cannot afford a thing right now, though. My laptop crashed on yesterday. Completely dead. They could not recover any of my data. All my music, my papers, my pictures, my art, my videos, my writing- gone. I literally cannot live without a laptop though so I already bought a new one. I'm not sorry I did it, but my debt has reached whole new levels :/
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But I got used to living alone and started liking it, and so will you. Relish the good things about living alone - you get to decide everything. And if you don't start liking it, you can share an apartment with a flatmate instead or something like that and be proud of yourself for trying. I know how hard life can be at times, but remember that everything works out in the end, and that you grow with each experince. (Wow, that last part didn't sound cliché at all, did it ( ... )
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I hope I start liking it. I'm trying very hard not to just give in and ask my best friend to move in with me right away, just in case I regret it later. I want to give this a chance and see if I just need to get used to it, you know?
I haven't been in a serious relationship in years. I'm notoriously single, so no fear of that :) But thank you all the same!
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