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[mirfainlasui]

I haven't really addressed this issue since the summer, but I'm going to do it now. I'm also going to disable comments because I feel like this is the sort of topic that could cause arguments and grief, and that's not what the point of all this is.

comments enabled because if you do have anything to say maybe you could say it here and not bitch/

Comments

[noisyhearts]

I don't wanna cause tension/drama because we still have to live together for a while and I don't want you to feel like we're not friends because we are, but yeah, there is some stuff I wanna say:

I think it's incredibly unfair of you to ask people (your friends) to do something when you did not respect them (us) enough to do the exact same thing when you were asked in slightly different circumstances. At the ATL/Cobra show last year, the first time I had ever really hung out with you (definitely the first time we'd been hanging out just the two of us rather than in a group with others) , you spent the entire day bitching Nat out. You knew I was close to her and I repeatedly said to you, "Megan, don't tell me this, I don't want to hear this," but you kept on going telling me she was "awful" & all this stuff that has happened between the two of you, really personal stuff. Even after I'd told you she was my friend, a good friend, and I didn't want to hear it.
she's one of my best friends again right now and I don't want to hear people

[cookiedough]

I just read this and I can assure you that its not between you and megan. I will email you when I'm not on my blackberry but very basically its not that at all and I know you were there when other people weren't. i will get to you on this. I'm sorry I can't do it right now.

[mirfainlasui]

That's why I opened the comments because I thought it'd be easier for people to say stuff rather than me worrying about talking behind my back. All I will say is this:

Honestly, honestly, I don't remember you telling me not to tell you stuff, I remember you saying you liked her, which I knew, but you joined in the discussion and I don't remember you telling me not to say stuff. However mostly all I remember that day actual conversation wise was you telling me about Gabe and so I might just not remember that, I can't say. But that was the point of this post, this post was about me feeling guilty about the fact that I have bitched about her before, and about the fact that I still do just to join in with conversation, but I was tired of how hypocritical/bitchy that made me feel and so I wanted to come clean/explain why I love her so much once more.

But yeah, your comment didn't come off as malicious or aggressive, this post was supposed to be about being honest so I'm glad you replied here.

[rachellous]

At the end of the day, it is your choice who you are friends with. I know that Nat and you were friends long before any bands came into the picture, your friendship runs deeper than that and so it should. You've had a tricky friendship with her, I'd say most of the people that met her in the UK have had conflicting feelings towards her, she's a likeable girl that was involved in a lot of very unlikeable times. I know I myself had a lot of bad feelings towards her after Nov 06, like many others, but unlike a lot of other people, I really don't know her well at all. In fact, after I did spend time with her when The Used toured I made a similar locked post on my journal about how much I thought she had changed for the better. It's been 3 years since all that chem stuff, i haven't seen her in 2 years, and I don't know her enough to really comment on her character at all anymore, I would simply be remarking on the past, which is well and truly over. Even if some people view your friendship with her as a 'mistake', it is completely your

[mirfainlasui]

<3.

[rachellous]

Pssst! I downloaded the Danny Elfman score to Milk today, want the link?

[mirfainlasui]

Oh yes please!

Email me @ meganbentall@gmail.com ?

[brokencitysky]

Firstly I wanna back up everything Rachel has just said Nat related or not

[mirfainlasui]

Honestly, i know people arent going to like it or whatever but this post was about admitting i was wrong/have changed my opinions from before, and just saying im done with bitching or at least want to try my hardest to stop bitching about people, especially, like I said, people that I do in fact like.

Xoxo

[brokencitysky]

I think there is a tendency in society to feel you have to bitch about people or you're an odd one out?

It's harder to learn not to bitch in this day and age i think

CHIN UP CHUCK :D

[mirfainlasui]

Thank you, I really appreciate this.

And like, I guess its not even people telling me not to be friends with her, I'm just very aware of some the disapproval, and I guess also just wantes to be honest about everything.

[anonymous]

That wasn't what this post was about at all Beccy. In fact this post was about not being hypocritical anymore, this post was about saying you know what...I do still bitch about Nat even when I don't think it anymore, or rather I let it happen around me, and I want to stop doing that, I don't like that I'm a bitchy person often, and I want to stop

[poorcopies]

Do you know what, I don't actually care, it doesn't affect me personally, I think you are a hyprocrite, if you are trying to change that good for you.

I have had enough of this bollocks of everyone bitching because they don't have the fucking guts to say how they really feel. I left school over ten years ago, ffs. I get pulled into it and I hate it.

I wish everyone would stop being so fucking spineless. THE END.