Thanks to everyone who responded to my other post. I wish miscarriage wasn't such a taboo topic. It's helpful to know that there are other people who have been there and survived it
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I'm so glad to hear it went well. I've been thinking of you. After my second miscarriage my midwife sent me to a naturopathic dr/midwife to figure out my hormones. She put me on a nasty tasting supplement to help my hormones regulate (I have PCOS )
I can't decide if I want them to find something wrong or not. On the one hand I would hate to find out that there's a problem. On the other hand hate the thought that this keeps happening for no reason. If there is a problem, hopefully it's something that is easily fixable.
I was told that thyroid issues can cause miscarriage. When they checked my HcG levels they also checked my thyroid. The next time we get pregnant, I will probably get prescription progesterone supplement.
On another note, I totally respect your choice to get the d&c. Seeing the embryo from my first miscarriage (more than 4 months after starting to bleed) set me to mourning all over again. I hope you heal quickly, and may our most recent miscarriages be our last.
I'm glad to hear that the procedure went well, and you haven't had too many physical complications after the surgery. My throat was sore after wards too for the same reason as you, and it was that way as well after my conization procedure two months prior to the miscarriage.
As for your emotions...it's going to take some time. The best thing to remember is not rush your grief. I deal with the miscarriage the same way as I deal with death in general. I take it a day at a time. Sometimes, it doesn't bother me even though the memory is on the back burner of my mind. Other times, I feel sad about it. Just don't let anyone tell you that you need to be over by a certain time or deal with it a certain way. We all deal with these things differently than others.
How long did it take your sore throat to go away? I thought it would feel better today, but it still hurts BAD! Drinking lots of ginger ale (the bubbles feel nice) and tea with honey. My voice is so scratchy I sound like a man! I'm definately trying to just take things one day or maybe I should say one hour at a time. I'm still not planning on going to my SIL's baby shower. Anyone that has an issue with that is going to just have to deal with it. I need to do what is best for me right now. Plus it wouldn't really be fair to my SIL if I show up and then start having a meltdown in the middle of her shower. It should be a happy day for her. I told my sister (who is also pregnant) on the phone yesterday that it's not that I'm not happy for them, I really truly am. It's just that right now, I'm more sad for me. Ya know?
The sore throat lasted a couple days both times for me. Like three to four days
I would've done the same thing as you and not go to your SIL's baby shower. I'm sure she'll understand that you're trying to recover (both physically and mentally) from the miscarriage. Luckily for me, baby showers aren't traditional in Sweden so I didn't have to worry about going to one. However, my SO's SIL had her baby a month before mine would've been due. It hurts till this day to think that I would've had a child a month younger than my niece.
And I forgot to include it in my original comment, but I found out why I miscarried on the same day I had the D&C (because they originally were going to keep me over night...mainly because of the blood loss). Rh incompatability caused it.
The medication was probably versed. I was given it before my laproscopy because, evidently, I was freaking out. I don't believe they're allowed to send any home with a patient due to side effects. If you feel like you need medical assistance with crying, emotions and such, talk with your doc and he/she can discuss putting you on something different.
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On another note, I totally respect your choice to get the d&c. Seeing the embryo from my first miscarriage (more than 4 months after starting to bleed) set me to mourning all over again. I hope you heal quickly, and may our most recent miscarriages be our last.
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and may our most recent miscarriages be our last. Yes, yes, yes!
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As for your emotions...it's going to take some time. The best thing to remember is not rush your grief. I deal with the miscarriage the same way as I deal with death in general. I take it a day at a time. Sometimes, it doesn't bother me even though the memory is on the back burner of my mind. Other times, I feel sad about it. Just don't let anyone tell you that you need to be over by a certain time or deal with it a certain way. We all deal with these things differently than others.
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I'm definately trying to just take things one day or maybe I should say one hour at a time. I'm still not planning on going to my SIL's baby shower. Anyone that has an issue with that is going to just have to deal with it. I need to do what is best for me right now. Plus it wouldn't really be fair to my SIL if I show up and then start having a meltdown in the middle of her shower. It should be a happy day for her. I told my sister (who is also pregnant) on the phone yesterday that it's not that I'm not happy for them, I really truly am. It's just that right now, I'm more sad for me. Ya know?
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I would've done the same thing as you and not go to your SIL's baby shower. I'm sure she'll understand that you're trying to recover (both physically and mentally) from the miscarriage. Luckily for me, baby showers aren't traditional in Sweden so I didn't have to worry about going to one. However, my SO's SIL had her baby a month before mine would've been due. It hurts till this day to think that I would've had a child a month younger than my niece.
And I forgot to include it in my original comment, but I found out why I miscarried on the same day I had the D&C (because they originally were going to keep me over night...mainly because of the blood loss). Rh incompatability caused it.
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The medication was probably versed. I was given it before my laproscopy because, evidently, I was freaking out. I don't believe they're allowed to send any home with a patient due to side effects. If you feel like you need medical assistance with crying, emotions and such, talk with your doc and he/she can discuss putting you on something different.
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