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[sniffme]

Hey guys, I just started a goth/industrial LDS group on Facebook. Please join! The more people we have, the greater the possibility you'll find a new friend. Search for the group "Gothic/Industrial Latter-day Saints."

Metalheads, emo kids, etc. also encouraged to join.

Comments

[treeling]

Wait Sniffme... Does that mean me? I'm not as cool as I used to be... like I have a real job... *sigh*

[falloutkid]

Intriguing.... I just came across your page from a random search. I am a queer ex-mormon male with a gothic DJ boyfriend. I am sympathetic to your dilemma, although obviously there are a lot of differences philosophically.

I view the gothic community as an outsider, although I have a passing familiarity. I come from the hardcore punk scene, so there's a lot of cultural clash, in my opinion. I occasionally go when Owen is DJing at Hive in Portland, Oregon. I've had to learn Christian Death lyrics that I never would have on my own, but I do like Rome, Joy Division and Nick Cave, so not a bad trade.

Would you ever consider dating someone outside of the church? What about marrying? I think Utah goths are probably fairly keen on what these traditional stereotypes might mean, regardless of what your position is.

It sucks being the outsider amongst outsiders. As a queer, vegan, straight edge, ex-mormon atheist, I have met only one other person with all of those little qualifier tags. Sometimes it's easier to stand alone. Best wishes.

[sniffme]

It is definitely difficult being an outsider, though sometimes I question whether I perceive myself as being completley alienated to make myself feel more special or whether I really am as different as I think. At any rate, I've only dated non-members. I don't live in Utah though, so those of my ilk are most likely unfamiliar with the LDS community. As for marrying a non-member...well, it would hurt to see that specific dream compromised, but I also don't want to settle for someone I have nothing in common with.

The gothic community as a whole is surprisingly intolerant. It's welcoming to liberal lifestyles, but shut to Christians and Jews. Just a little quirky in that regard. I still, however, feel more comfortable there than at an indie club or a biker bar.

[larrabeefyhy]

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