You Can Get With This or You Can Get With That

[misha77]

I wish I had an answer on where we are moving but I don’t yet and this has become way too confusing. So Ben went to Cincinnati last week and all they did was pressure him towards NC. They told him it was the better fit for him, that he would have better opportunities there and blah, blah, blah. They also told him that they have okayed giving me a

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[millysdaughter]

Small group of older women with similar backgrounds?
I am picturing you as the red-headed illegitimate stepchild at the family reunion in that office -- you really might want to look for your own job there, working for a different company than he does. Too much togetherness is not a good thing...many of us like to come home and call the boss bad names -- or go to work and call our spouse bad names, yanno?

[misha77]

Possibly same background. Most of them are buyers or logistics people I think.

Well if it gets us income to move there so we can get the house we want then I'll take it if I have to. I can always keep my eyes open for other jobs.

But yes, my same concern that if one day he has to work there too it would be way too much time together. And you're right, I can't complain about my husband because everybody knows him and his boss is in the office about 3 days out of the week (he travels alot). The situation is not ideal but my Dad was telling me in the engineering world that if they really want a certain engineer and the wife is being hesistant that they bring her in to interview and agree to hire her too so they get the enginneer they want. So I guess this stuff happens.

[cortneeinc]

Wow, that is so incredibly difficult. I'm sorry. I do have faith it will work out for the best for you guys. You are both hard workers and you have a wonderful sense of family - hard to go wrong with that. *hugs*

[misha77]

I don't know. I feel like we've already gone wrong moving around in general. This is just too much stress moving and starting over again. I'm just really afraid of being miserable in Charlotte and blaiming Ben and it ruining our marriage. But if we move to Ohio he might be unhappy and blaim me. I just wish we both were excited about Charlotte since his company is strong arming him there. Everyone says they love NC and it's great weather and close to the beach and family oriented. So what is wrong with me that I don't want to go there?

[cortneeinc]

I honestly think NC seems like an amazing place to live. The weather alone! But I like the south and would like to move from here. I guess the grass is always greener?

BUT there is more to it the whole thing than living in NC. You have to start over there. Again. You have to make new friends, start a new job, orient the kids, decorate another house, find your way around, reestablish your shopping and driving patterns. That is TOO MUCH for anyone to internalize, it's overwhelming.

But to a point, you're going to have to do this in west chester too.

[misha77]

I do think the grass is greener sometimes. Moving away from this weather is great but then you find yourself missing the kids playing in the snow or missing it being cold just a little longer to enjoy your cool snow boots or sweaters. lol Being a pale person I rather hibernate in cold weather. And I HATE the heat. At least in Missouri the horribly hot summers don't last as long as it would in NC.

Yeah, I know either place is a start over. And living in Ohio is not really my dream. But the fact that I can go have lunch with friends or family so easily is a great thought. I just hope whatever we decide works out and we are all happy and settled in the end. This whole situation is very overwhelming.