And this time, it's…

[mishajames]

…the alternator. *sigh* I had hoped it would be something less expensive. But at least the minivan will be ready this afternoon. Thank goodness. So now I'm hoping this will be last car expense for some time. At least until I've secured some income and managed to build something of a reserve in the bank

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[thebruce]

At least it was something not to hard to troubleshoot!

Be sure to get one with a lifetime warranty, and then take the mini-van in and have the battery/charging system tested when you're done, preferably at the place that sells you the alternator.

[r_grayjoy]

Y'know, for all the money you've put into that van over the last couple of months, you could have bought a more reliable vehicle... Or maybe two of them!

You? Reexamining your desire to have a family?? I never thought I'd see the day... Has anyone checked the temperature in Hell lately...?

Seriously, though -- as people keep telling me, I'm sure you would feel differently about your own offspring than you do about other peoples' spawn. No real reason you should feel "paternal" about children whom you have had little to no hand in raising.

I've always known that having a family of your own has been important to you, but I don't think I've ever asked you WHY... Some things for you to think about... What, honestly, are your reasons for wanting to have kids? And, purely hypothetically, if you had to give up music in order to have a family, would it be worth it to you? And why or why not?

[mishajames]

Give up music? Entirely? Or do you mean give up pursuing it as I have been, i.e. playing gigs and so forth?

I don't think I could ever give up music entirely. That would be like asking someone to give up THINKING.

Still, I believe I see what you're saying. The way I see it, to be in that sort of relationship, with a spouse and with the child/ren can't be something he or she isn't. In other words, I am at heart a musician. To stop being that would be to deny part of who I am. And if I'm not being me, how could I be someone that important to anyone else?

As to my reason for wanting kids? Hmmn…I'll have to think on that.

I'll admit, the notion that I may have been wrong about wanting kids is a little disconcerting. I've forgone possible relationships with some very wonderful women because she didn't want children.

[r_grayjoy]

No, I didn't mean give it up entirely, as in cut it out of your life completely. As you said, it's too much of who you are. Yes, I meant give up pursuing it as a profession, and spending so much of your time on it