Are you familiar with the show "Firefly"? It was a very short-lived sci-fi western series back in 2002 that has garnered a lot of attention due to its excellent writing and the fact that it's a damn fun show.
In one episode--"Jaynestown"--there's a line that reminds me of and addresses what I perceive is your exact mindset right now:
Fess: Shouldn't I be a man now? Inara: A man is just a boy who's old enough to ask that question. But it doesn't make you a man, you do that yourself.
As you might imagine, the context of the lines is slightly different from what you're facing. Your own penultimate paragraph contains all that you need remember, apart from the above and the following: normal is simply the average of the oddities.
That's my take on it, anyway. Remember not only that she's your girl but she's her own person, as well, and you'll both be fine. Everything else should come to you.
Of course, I don't have kids yet... so take that with a grain of salt.
You know, I have had the full series and serenity sitting on top of the tv for EVER, and I've just been waiting until I have a solid block of time to sit and watch. I love Joss Whedon.
"How can I teach her about loving and healthy relationships if I haven't even figured one out? How can I teach her to overcome each of my own weaknesses and insecurities if I know nothing else? I have become very adept at adjusting and at allowing most hurtful things to roll off my back, but what do I do when things do finally wear me down and I start attacking myself from my own core
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<3. I miss you. I felt badly that I was in Buffalo last week and didnt come by.. I dropped Jeff off for his flight at 5:30 and should have been home and back in bed by 7:30 but he missed his flight and I had to go back to the airport. I ended up getting home at like 1, but I was all messed up from lack of sleep, and I was so worried about Aria since I was suppose dbe be back hours before, so poor Ben had to watch her all day. Sometime soon, though, we will have to get together, either there or here or whatever.
I think the people before me are alot more in-depth as far as responses so I won't even try, but I will say one thing... you sure as hell don't have any wrinkles chick. ;)
Keep your head up, you and Aria will be fine. As she grows up and learns so will you. You seem to know exactly what you don't want to be as a parent; now all you really need to understand is that no one is perfect at everything (or anything, really) to expect it of yourself in any regard is what makes you feel inferior... that's why you see wrinkles when there are no wrinkles (just a small example from your post) I really feel like I can't touch the parenting stuff, I'm not a parent. All I know about it is that I can't even begin to understand it til I'm in those shoes. Still, you definately have the best possible intentions in mind for her, that must count for something, right? take care lady, see ya at work :)
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In one episode--"Jaynestown"--there's a line that reminds me of and addresses what I perceive is your exact mindset right now:
Fess: Shouldn't I be a man now?
Inara: A man is just a boy who's old enough to ask that question. But it doesn't make you a man, you do that yourself.
As you might imagine, the context of the lines is slightly different from what you're facing. Your own penultimate paragraph contains all that you need remember, apart from the above and the following: normal is simply the average of the oddities.
That's my take on it, anyway. Remember not only that she's your girl but she's her own person, as well, and you'll both be fine. Everything else should come to you.
Of course, I don't have kids yet... so take that with a grain of salt.
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Keep your head up, you and Aria will be fine. As she grows up and learns so will you. You seem to know exactly what you don't want to be as a parent; now all you really need to understand is that no one is perfect at everything (or anything, really) to expect it of yourself in any regard is what makes you feel inferior... that's why you see wrinkles when there are no wrinkles (just a small example from your post) I really feel like I can't touch the parenting stuff, I'm not a parent. All I know about it is that I can't even begin to understand it til I'm in those shoes. Still, you definately have the best possible intentions in mind for her, that must count for something, right?
take care lady, see ya at work :)
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