Is a Lesbian a Virgin if She Never Had Sex With a Man?

[miss_july]

Good question. A weighty one. You might be surprised by the answers.

What is virginity? Who defines it? Who came up with it?
Ho 'bout we start with the beginning?

(Answers to be posted soon. Feel free to respond with your own ansers and first instincts)

Comments

[mxristine]

Ask the lesbian. :)

[miss_july]

Actually, the lesbian asked me.

[goldynkat]

She's a virgin to a man. I have always just figured that there's more than 1 type of virginity.

[miss_july]

I used to think so, too....

[barbrocks]

A virgin is defined as someone who has not had sexual intercourse and sexual intercourse is defined as penetration of the vagina with a penis, meaning opposite sex. But I think of virginity as meaning having sex with anyone, whether opposite sex or same sex.

[bluesyncopate]

Some people have better time with non-genital sex - It's just BETTER all-around for them. Others are the other way around... can't stand anything but that. The point is it's all part of the same "sexual" experience. I think those who have done everything in the book EXCEPT penetration and still think they're "a virgin in God's eyes" - well that's just playing with words. It's ridiculous. Clumsy three-second genital sex with no kissing makes you *less* of a virgin than a thousand side-splitting intense hand/blow jobs? I know it's an extreme example, but that it can be made at all speaks volumes.

And B has a point. If you want to define "virginity" as never having had sex with a man, or never having sex with someone you loved, then I ain't gonna stop you! Ultimately, people are going to use the term however suits them best. Thus the recent "re-virginized" trend.

[neuvieme_verite]

Virginity for a lesbian is not going to involve a penis. Plain and simple. A lesbian's first sexual experience, whether there is penetration by something or not, is going to be her deflowering.

[miss_july]

I'm with ya on this one. =)