A little annoyed

[misscapitalista]

Okay, keep in mind when I make this post that it is not directed at any one person - and it is not directed at any person who (that I'm aware of) reads my livejournal

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[misscapitalista]

But that's what I meant when I said "I know those things aren't inconsequential." They have to matter a little bit. For example, when Mark was dating he said that the girl had to meet a certain baseline of being at least a little bit attractive (i.e. he couldn't be so repulsed by her that he didn't want a physical relationship). But after that, it was all about personality. (Poor guy, getting stuck with me). But yeah...I just think more people should be that way, rather than waiting for the hottest person in the world.

[misscapitalista]

Also, I think that's why I'm impatient with romantic comedies lately. I feel like I've moved on from that phase of life where I need to be swept off my feet and feel the intensity of the early part of a relationship. I just feel that it teaches people to value the wrong things. The honeymoon phase lasts a month....whereas good conversation, friendship, and sex with someone you care for deeply....those last a lifetime.

I probably sound like I'm 50 or something, and maybe I don't have enough life experience to know at this point. But that's definitely what my gut tells me based on where I'm at now, and what other people who have been happily married a long time tell me.

[bashow]

I agree with you. Relationships, in order for them to last(I don't speak from experience), must be based on something other than superficial things. There's lots of nice looking and wealthy people. Therefore, if someone loves you for things like that, they could just as easily love any number of other people. I think it's better, longer lasting, and more meaningful to be loved on a much more personal level than that. Such as someone who really values you as a unique person. In that case, they could only love you since you are the only one of your kind. If you could feel the same way about them, then you really have something. There's lots of situations where looks or income won't be enough and things could start to wear thin, but enjoying each other's company and being able to talk about things will be enough and last. I think people tend to enter into relationships based too much on passion rather than on what will work for them in the long term. Of course, looks and money are important as well. We cannot deny our needs. It's who we

[anonymous]

I totally agree with you Em. Unrealistic expectations is what ruins perfectly good relationships. I wouldn't be with my finance now if I still bought into all that BS on TV. That's one of the things I really like about the movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. It presents a relationship, though in the context of a somewhat scifi film, that is more real than most of this McDreamy crap on television.

BTW I can't agree with you about Matthew McConaughey. He never plays "rich guy" or "the catch" in movies, he plays the easy going hot guy that is usually poor, but loveable. And he's hot. But fucking McDreamy can suck it. Who does that guy think he is! I don't even watch that show and I have to see this douche on TV all the time.

- Jo

[misscapitalista]

Yes - I LOVE that about Eternal Sunshine. It's a very real relationship - for better or worse. Matt McConaughey....I'm thinking How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days or....is it 10 Things I Hate About You? I mean, I think he's hot, don't get me wrong. But I don't feel attracted to him because I feel that he radiates arrogance. I hate guys that are too suave and polished. And I think regardless of who he's playing...he radiates that. He's the guy virtually every girl would have a crush on....not because there's anything unique about him, but because he's good looking and suave.