I think it would be completely fine for you to say something when they bring it up to you next. Everyone is an adult, and they are coming to you about the issue so surely they shouldn't blame you for expressing your opinion. I have a feeling though with how stressed they are on the subject and with each other, you unfortunately might be attacked for your input simply because they are defensive. Its clear this is crippling them as individuals and as a couple. If they don't give you an honest and open ear the next time they speak of this to you, I would suggest telling them to stop talking to you about it, because its not helping them any to pass the frustration on via venting. Wish them the best of luck and let them know you hope they find a better way to work through this.
Nope. None of your business unless they ask you for advice. Saying something won't change anything except that they'll probably get pissed off and offended. If they've decided to have a baby, there is nothing anyone can say to them that's going to change their mind. Lots of couples have babies thinking that it'll somehow renew their commitment to each other. They don't really think about how stressful it is to have kids. I guess that's not something anyone can truly understand until it happens.
She could offer words of encouragement with out pointing out what they are doing is wrong. Like a helpful reminder that they are in this together and both are really wanting this child. She can acknowledge conception can be a very emotional experience, but that they are fortunate to still have each other above all else. Renew the faith, love, and support they vowed to each other through these hard times, because marriage isnt always going to be easy, just like life.
Say something to them about your feelings and concerns on their fighting and their desire for children and then run for the hills..
Not only is their relationship a bad enviroment for a child to grow up, but it is a bad enviroment for an adult to be around. Their negative energy causes issues with those who consider them friends.
Also, I have a feeling that if you express your feeling from an honest place, they will "team up" and profess how wrong you are about their relationship..
Best best; drop that bomb on them and then get away. Let their relationship explode on its own. Don't be a witness to that drama..
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Say something to them about your feelings and concerns on their fighting and their desire for children and then run for the hills..
Not only is their relationship a bad enviroment for a child to grow up, but it is a bad enviroment for an adult to be around. Their negative energy causes issues with those who consider them friends.
Also, I have a feeling that if you express your feeling from an honest place, they will "team up" and profess how wrong you are about their relationship..
Best best; drop that bomb on them and then get away. Let their relationship explode on its own. Don't be a witness to that drama..
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