*sigh* Ugh

[missingkitsune]

So apparently Mom's memorial service is on Tues 11-1 with a luncheon to follow.
I only found this out from a post on FB.
Thanks for letting me know sis. *sighs more*

I get she has lots on her mind, I really do. It's just I can't get over this resentment. Even now, even here I'm treated like a fucking outsider in my own supposed family.

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[helliongoddess]

Meh. You have my advice on the subject. As far as your family, I'll tell you the same thing I told someone else recently - they've always been this way, so it's irrational to expect them to act any way BUT crappy. EXPECT crappy, and be pleasantly surprised if and when they're not.

[missingkitsune]

Heh... they're even worse when they're upset. I'm not holding onto irrational wishes on that part.

[helliongoddess]

Yeah, in my experience, death pushes people either to their very best, or their very worst, behavior - there seems to be very little middle ground or "normal," it is the Land of the Extreme.

I swear, sometimes I think the reason most white people end up getting SO bloody fucked up over it all is we're so hopelessly repressed and buttoned up about it, determined not to let our real feelings out. You go to a black funeral - and even some Italian ones - and there's weeping and screaming and crying and lots of hugging, and a lot of singing, and they get it all out of their system, then everybody goes and eats and has a good time afterwards. I really think that's a lot more healthy, in the long run.

[missingkitsune]

I'm agreeing with your whole statement here.
There's not much middle ground. And it would be a lot easier if we could do something like that.