I'd Do Anything For Love (But I Won't Do That)

[misteral]

I was re-watching the first two episodes of Gavin & Stacey this morning, for no particular reason than they were on iPlayer and I had nothing better to do. And they got me thinking about something

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[knaw]

Gavin & Stacey is a favourite of mine, altho' I've now seen every episode twice and that's enough for me.

It's actually quite Shakespearean in places. For instance, there's the parallel of Romeo & Juliet who move at the same ridiculously quick pace. There is also an element of rhyme where characthers say the same lines or have circular conversations.

James Corden is a twat but I find it hard to pick fault with his writing.

[misteral]

I actually thought of Romeo & Juliet when I was writing this entry. The Shakesperian couple are commonly regarded at the embodiment of what romance means, yet the two of them comitted suicide because of their love, which seems like the very definition of an unhealthy relationship to me.

I think that Ruth Jones is probably the main reason why Gavin & Stacey is as good as it was...

[knaw]

Agreed about Ruth Jones.

Tidy.

[moseleyjules]

Ah, it's called falling in love, mon ami... Rational thought doesn't come into it!

It's happened to me before, it's just very rare it turns into a lasting healthy relationship. It's bloody good fun though :)

[misteral]

I do get the fact that falling in love and being rational don't have much in common with each other! But what Gavin did was motivated by exactly the same feelings as those of creepy stalkers whose actions pester and annoy the object of their desire.

I suppose what I was interested in is whether such irrational acts are the sign of a healthy love or an unhealthy love. I still don't know.

[moseleyjules]

Oh I have another (real) example then - a friend of mine used to go to the local video shop and fancied the bloke behind the counter. On her birthday she received a card from him in the post with a message asking her out. He'd gone on to the computer system at the shop to find out her birthday and address. Sounds extremely creepy but she loved it - they got together and even ended up getting married.

(...They're divorced now actually, but the story's not quite the same if you include that part)

[webgirluk]

I'd think it was a lovely gesture and would be exceptionally happy if someone made that effort for me although I might think it a bit of a shame I couldn't have just made the journey with him, rather than having to ,make a coach trip with a load of other people although I would appreciate the surprise and gesture.

It depends on the context of the relationship as to whether it not it is determined weird or creepy. If they had a mutual connection enough to "spend a night" together then they know each other well enough/earn the right to get away with delivering such gestures without it deemed creepy as such but if they hardly knew each other emotionally and had a casual meet up off a dating site and the girl wasn't interested/met for a day as friends then yes, creepy as hell lol. So it's the actual emotional bond that determines the difference, regardless of time spent.