children are what they are, and they rebel against change as much as anyone else. I've never been fond of the "I'm the parent and you will eat what I tell you to eat" stance. Of course I'm not a parent so perhaps my opinion is shit, but my parents never did that to me and I'm glad. They never forced me to finish my food either.
What they did do was say I needed to eat at least one serving of a fruit or a vegetable and one serving of a protein. I would go so far as to say a fruit or a non starchy vegetable, a serving of protein, and a starch. But then.. in my world she would have been ok as mac n cheese is a starch and a protein combined. but she wouldn't have been ok for eating the fat off the chicken and not the chicken because that's wasteful.
See... I agree. I'm of the stance that a child has to take a bite or two of something, and that we provide nice balanced meals. That are good and kid friendly. Not the types of stuff that we make for ourselves when we have them. This stance has gotten extreme over the past few times we've had them, because of the constant battling. If we let her all she'd eat would be eggs and mac and cheese. The thing is it's just defiance that is driving this. I know that. I just want to bang my head against the desk cause she is winning this little battle of wills. If we don't let her eat eggs and mac and cheese, then she just won't eat, and we can't let that happen. It sucks all the way around!
We used to have the thoughts of if you don't like it, you can go make yourself a Peanut butter and jelly sandwich, but it got to the point where that was all she was eating again, and she needs to eat more that PB&J.
I'm just at the end of my rope here, and I don't know what to do..
tell her if she's going to eat like that she has to take a vitamin because she's not getting enough of the right nutrients? I mean.. kids will stop fighting against you if they realize you aren't going to compete with them.
I figured you would probably know what I was talking about.
And John is having issues with not wanting them to WANT to go back home and him wanting to be the fun parent. The thing that sucks is that it makes me the disciplinarian... And it turns me into the evil step mother. I hate when he does that. So I called him on it.
We're trying to be cool about it... And I know she is testing our limits... Yesterday she was great.
Why... Cause I made my choc. chip cookies, and I told them both they couldn't have any unless they ate all of their dinner. You would be surprised at how quickly it all went away!
KIDS!
I'll probably call or come over sometime after they are back home for some bitching and decompression... Maybe bring Shells with me!
I embraced the evil step mother role. I figured that it didnt really matter what I said or did, koz ethan's mother is so manipulative and unscrupulous that she was goign to brain wash him anyway as she had done with beth.
show them you love them, and they will remember it. you dont have to be their favorite, but do whats right and when they get to be adults, they will understand who did what and why.
That's a good mentality to have... Maybe something I need to remember. It's hard sometimes cause we do only have them 6 weeks a year. I forget what it is like to be a parent to them, and every time we see them they are so much different!!!
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What they did do was say I needed to eat at least one serving of a fruit or a vegetable and one serving of a protein. I would go so far as to say a fruit or a non starchy vegetable, a serving of protein, and a starch. But then.. in my world she would have been ok as mac n cheese is a starch and a protein combined. but she wouldn't have been ok for eating the fat off the chicken and not the chicken because that's wasteful.
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We used to have the thoughts of if you don't like it, you can go make yourself a Peanut butter and jelly sandwich, but it got to the point where that was all she was eating again, and she needs to eat more that PB&J.
I'm just at the end of my rope here, and I don't know what to do..
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And John is having issues with not wanting them to WANT to go back home and him wanting to be the fun parent. The thing that sucks is that it makes me the disciplinarian... And it turns me into the evil step mother. I hate when he does that. So I called him on it.
We're trying to be cool about it... And I know she is testing our limits... Yesterday she was great.
Why... Cause I made my choc. chip cookies, and I told them both they couldn't have any unless they ate all of their dinner. You would be surprised at how quickly it all went away!
KIDS!
I'll probably call or come over sometime after they are back home for some bitching and decompression... Maybe bring Shells with me!
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show them you love them, and they will remember it.
you dont have to be their favorite, but do whats right and when they get to be adults, they will understand who did what and why.
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