I can dig what you're saying about marriage. I'm 23 and I've been married for 3 years coming march 17. You fleshed your ideas out really well on the topic. The only problem I have with marriage isn't actually the institution but sort of the ideals we place behind it and how wedding days have become more important than actual marriages.
It's sad/pathetic when you consider that half of all marriages in the US, I'm not sure on the statistic in Canada end in divorce. I mean if those fuckers had just taken the time to really think about marriage like they think about the wedding I doubt many of them would have gotten married.
I'm not religious/christian. I just know that my husband is my best friend and when sex is out of the picture in your later years all you really have is intimacy (being close) and friendship.
the wedding/ceremony is important to me because it's a tradition that's a big part of the culture i have been raised in. i am in no way one of those obsessive wedding planner type people though. however, i in no way think it's more important than the marriage. the most important part is definitely being married with someone that you consider your partner for life and your best friend.
sex is important to me right now, while i still have the labido and ability, but intimacy and friendship definitely are the most important things.
i am not religious or christian either, but i want to have a marriage in a church to carry on the tradition/culture i've been raised in.
(i feel like i am being really redundant here - hee.)
no i just mean that if i were to have a son, would not have him circumcised, while my parents always said that it was the right thing to do, and that foreskin was dirty. if i had been born a boy i would have been circumcised.
I was all about the "marriage is meaningless," and then I got married. We originally were going to do it for tax reasons, but now that it's done.. well dohh, all those old ladies are right, it is something special. I feel more secure in our relationship, I feel like a legitimate part of his family, I feel happier. It's really taken me by surprise. I don't think I fully understood why marriage was such a major issue for the lgbt community before, but now it seems obvious that it IS way different from just being common-law partners. (heh, we signed the marriage register at my church underneath a half dozen gay and lesbian couples who got married there as soon as it was legal...)
i love weddings! even if marriage is an old fashion tradition, there's just something romantic about sealing the deal while partying with your closest friends and family, and showing the world you found something that will last forever :)
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It's sad/pathetic when you consider that half of all marriages in the US, I'm not sure on the statistic in Canada end in divorce. I mean if those fuckers had just taken the time to really think about marriage like they think about the wedding I doubt many of them would have gotten married.
I'm not religious/christian. I just know that my husband is my best friend and when sex is out of the picture in your later years all you really have is intimacy (being close) and friendship.
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sex is important to me right now, while i still have the labido and ability, but intimacy and friendship definitely are the most important things.
i am not religious or christian either, but i want to have a marriage in a church to carry on the tradition/culture i've been raised in.
(i feel like i am being really redundant here - hee.)
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even if marriage is an old fashion tradition, there's just something romantic about sealing the deal while partying with your closest friends and family, and showing the world you found something that will last forever :)
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