You're best off not setting these deadlines, seriously. You never know what can happen to thwart these plans...and it can be crushing to feel that you've "failed" at accomplishing these most basic (yet profound) life goals when you expect yourself to. In fact, setting such strict goals for yourself about these things can cause you to make life-changing decisions that might not be right for you (or for your future family) just for the sake of avoiding failure. I have been down that path, and speak these words from experience.
(Me so far = married by 24, divorced by 26, remarried by 28, hoping to be ready for a child by 32. This is really not how I thought it would happen!)
p.s. I'm sort of elated to find someone like-minded to me who actually wants to have children!
this is wise, anna. im not really sure, i just decided today/last night that i want to start a family before i reach 30. part of the reason i want to have acomplished these things by the time im thirty is because i want my grandmother to be a part of my wedding and get to meet her greatgrandchild before she passes away. my grandma is 85 so i don't know how much time she has left. my future children already missed out on getting to know my great auntie mame (my grandma's sister), but maybe they will have a chance to know their great grandmother.
guh, i'm baby crazy right now. i go through phazes. i don't think i would have ever gotten like this if i hadnt have been pregnant. actually KNOWING first hand that i'm capable of making another person has made it seem all the more tangible. but really, who am i kidding. i was the 18 year old girl with copies of martha stewart baby hidden underneath her issues of BUST.
Plans like that are fine, but don't worry about falling behind (or shooting ahead) schedule.
There was a class assignment once in High School where we had to make a time-line for our future lives. If I was on schedule with that I would be at home, you know, on the MOONBASE, training to represent my country as a fencer at the Olympic games. I loose this time because I trained in low gravity and was slow, so returning home, you know the MOON, I commission heavier swords and a weighted suit...
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well, no doom, but flexibility is gooda.
besides.. getting married is way too much effort!
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ive just been mopey about it lately...
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(Me so far = married by 24, divorced by 26, remarried by 28, hoping to be ready for a child by 32. This is really not how I thought it would happen!)
p.s. I'm sort of elated to find someone like-minded to me who actually wants to have children!
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guh, i'm baby crazy right now. i go through phazes. i don't think i would have ever gotten like this if i hadnt have been pregnant. actually KNOWING first hand that i'm capable of making another person has made it seem all the more tangible. but really, who am i kidding. i was the 18 year old girl with copies of martha stewart baby hidden underneath her issues of BUST.
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There was a class assignment once in High School where we had to make a time-line for our future lives. If I was on schedule with that I would be at home, you know, on the MOONBASE, training to represent my country as a fencer at the Olympic games. I loose this time because I trained in low gravity and was slow, so returning home, you know the MOON, I commission heavier swords and a weighted suit...
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