my lady is feeling the same stuff as she prepares to go to her family's this weekend. it's hard to feel strong enough...but you are - really, you are a hell of a strong, single, fat, hard-workin' rockstar who is loved by her extended family to bits - BITS I say!
so happy holidays, thinking about you and loving you from afar. xox
part of me wants to say "don't go!" but then i think that's childish of me.
part of me wants to say "what would make it less torturous for you to be there? will your family help if the car craps out? are you ok asking for that help? what kind of ziggy help/support would make the kids safer and you more comfy?"
part of me wants to say "oh, who cares if your fat and single?!?" not in a judgmental way, but literally--who cares. if it's your family, is there a way to prep them and say "hey guys, let's find something else to focus on, so we can enjoy spending time together, rather than me just being an icon of myself here." if it's you, how about you finding something else to focus on while you're there. (don't know what that would be. calling friends when you start to get annoyed?)
i'm not sure any of these impulses will be of any use to you, but there you go. hate to see you walking into a set-up.
go to nola.janespeedNovember 15 2007, 06:20:42 UTC
go to nola.
i dunno. i've decided the past 4 years to not go to my parents' and they live an hour away and my mom cries i know it and i feel guilty and they are getting older... yadda yadda.
but the reality of being miserable for a holiday really sucks. and being selfish ain't bad. and how often do all yr friends get together and cook a big meal? okay, nevermind. apparently y'all do that all the time.
i think we have similar family dynamics- i'm the only only only. phone date soon yes please.
Take care of yourself, first and foremosthairlessllamaNovember 15 2007, 17:30:46 UTC
I think holidays are for spending with family. Sometimes, though, family is chosen, not biological...
You need to feel good and proud of the strong, independent woman that you are and no one should get to take that from you, guilt-tripping mothers or otherwise.
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so happy holidays, thinking about you and loving you from afar.
xox
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i don't know.
part of me wants to say "don't go!" but then i think that's childish of me.
part of me wants to say "what would make it less torturous for you to be there? will your family help if the car craps out? are you ok asking for that help? what kind of ziggy help/support would make the kids safer and you more comfy?"
part of me wants to say "oh, who cares if your fat and single?!?" not in a judgmental way, but literally--who cares. if it's your family, is there a way to prep them and say "hey guys, let's find something else to focus on, so we can enjoy spending time together, rather than me just being an icon of myself here." if it's you, how about you finding something else to focus on while you're there. (don't know what that would be. calling friends when you start to get annoyed?)
i'm not sure any of these impulses will be of any use to you, but there you go. hate to see you walking into a set-up.
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i dunno. i've decided the past 4 years to not go to my parents' and they live an hour away and my mom cries i know it and i feel guilty and they are getting older... yadda yadda.
but the reality of being miserable for a holiday really sucks. and being selfish ain't bad. and how often do all yr friends get together and cook a big meal? okay, nevermind. apparently y'all do that all the time.
i think we have similar family dynamics- i'm the only only only. phone date soon yes please.
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You need to feel good and proud of the strong, independent woman that you are and no one should get to take that from you, guilt-tripping mothers or otherwise.
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