So, I feel like I'm about to stumble upon another thing I want to make a point on, but I can't seem to really focus on it (maybe it's that poor little shrimpie I ate about 3 hours ago ._
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I added something about materialism being supported, and opportunism not being supported unless it falls into tourist activity... But yeah, I agree about the kid thing. People should not have more kids than they can handle, for one. Like a couple should not have more than two kids, and if one of those parents is extremely busy, then they should only have one kid, unless there is another adult around to help with the same consistency as the one parent that is around. If there is a household with three or more adults around with substantial frequency, then I think it's understandable ot have more than two. But considering the fact that nowadays, children move far away from their parents and communities are becoming less and less a factor in the upbringing of the young, I really don't think families should have more than two, in any situation. If it happens they should really try to find a way to give that child a proper upbringing. Buy a bigger house and move a close relative in. Move closer to a relative (less risk for family feuds to
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Why an adult being around a child at all times is not overprotective - depending on the intent of the adult.
Like take Mimu for example. I don't think he would be offended if I just tell the truth - he seems kind of "sheltered" because there are many things about life that he never knew about until ..well.. I met him! But his parents were definitely NOT overprotective, nor did they talk fantasy to him about important subjects.
They just didn't tell him anything! They either weren't there, or they were too ashamed to talk about it. He told me about the time when he asked his parents The Big Question - he said his mom stopped what she was doing, looking down, and didn't say anything. From then on he thought that what he asked was very very BAD and so he grew up not knowing anything about the subject at all, and whenever it came up he reacted the same way his mother did - he'd pause, get really quiet and feel sick to his stomach, and look down as if someone had kicked a dog in front of him.
Some people would argue that there's so much celebration of youth in fiction (think of how many Japanese dorama are about high schoolers and their adventures in love, friendship, etc?) because it's meant to appeal to that age group itself; however, I think it's just an adult longing to return to that time. Few people appreciate their youth when they have it, because all they can dream about is being old enough to do what they want (drive, drink, date, whatever) but when we finally reach adulthood and realize that it's not all that it's cracked up to be, it's already too late. Most people would agree that 99% of how teenage years are portrayed on TV and in books is either an exaggeration or simply not close to what they experienced, which is probably why these stories are created in the first place
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Yes it did, but what's sad is that I know I was a lot smarter than I am now as far as those hardcore studies go. But in life itself, I feel like I am a lot more aware, more intelligent, more of a help toward society... what bothers me is why we still teach all of these complex and abstract things like trigonometry and calculus, I could even say that most geometry could call in this category. Biology (I was in honors biology and most of the crap I learned in that class I will never ever use or need to understand. Like genetics! That was freakin' hard!) So what is this "system" that they might fall behind? None of this stuff is important and a lot of what we're taught is repeated over and over again from junior high school. I genuinely believe that if our schools were actually effective at teaching children what they really need to know in this world, and even if you want to include a few abstract things just to test their brainmeats, you could still get it all done by grade 8
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and especially in houses where there is more than one child at home alone, or where the parent-to-child ratio is tipped so that the children outnumber the adults, what happens is that children learn more from other children. Whether or not the children are well-behaved doesn't matter, this is the formula for stagnant growth in a society.. actually no, recessive growth.
A lot of what you're saying makes plenty of sense. However I'd like to interject here that I had to grow up essentially independent in a chaotic, abusive family with a mother, a father, as well as an older and younger brother
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I also was unsure of how to type this without sounding conceited :/ It's hard to state how others or I feel about myself without coming off that way. It was not intended if it did.
Thank you for commenting. You know, you sound a lot like me. I had a somewhat abusive family with a younger brother who ended up being very violent and abusive as well, and by mother had always been a chaotic person. My parents divorced and my father became severely alcoholic and I've had many traumatizing experiences with that. I'd always been teased, avoided, or abused in school, sometimes even by teachers. The thing I've found out is that even with people in the same exact situations as I have been, they don't come out the same at all. My brother for example, has ADHD and got into the whole bad-ass gang thing. He never joined a gang but he has always been skirting around that fine line. On the other hand, I had a few friends throughout my years in gradeschool who were very shy and quiet and kept to themselves. I found out later that they had grown up in the same situation I had, and had even been picked on in school
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At the age of 15, I was told this: "Everyone got an interesting subject for their speech, and you show up with a stupid painter!" (I know I already told you this, Jess). So it's not just that maths and materialism are supported and encouraged, personal development and art are actually discouraged and punished (I got really bad grades for the speech, although my content and language were very good!!)..
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Like take Mimu for example. I don't think he would be offended if I just tell the truth - he seems kind of "sheltered" because there are many things about life that he never knew about until ..well.. I met him! But his parents were definitely NOT overprotective, nor did they talk fantasy to him about important subjects.
They just didn't tell him anything! They either weren't there, or they were too ashamed to talk about it. He told me about the time when he asked his parents The Big Question - he said his mom stopped what she was doing, looking down, and didn't say anything. From then on he thought that what he asked was very very BAD and so he grew up not knowing anything about the subject at all, and whenever it came up he reacted the same way his mother did - he'd pause, get really quiet and feel sick to his stomach, and look down as if someone had kicked a dog in front of him.
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and especially in houses where there is more than one child at home alone, or where the parent-to-child ratio is tipped so that the children outnumber the adults, what happens is that children learn more from other children. Whether or not the children are well-behaved doesn't matter, this is the formula for stagnant growth in a society.. actually no, recessive growth.
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