I didn't quit today!

[mmmelp00]

Yay! Thanks for listening to me today, Mommie Dearest! I wound up returning to my office, still squinting due to insufficient tear duct action, but ultimately getting final rewrites done and sent off for review, and even beginning this one horrible mess of a project. I am an emotional freak! Now it is time for bath time and closing of the dry-

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i read somewhere

[flyingsolo1949]

that one should never do anything major without thinking about it for two weeks. So, if you are ever going to quit your job, make the decision but do not act on it for two weeks. That period of time will allow you to be, uh, somewhat sure that you really want to do it. I know that I thought about leaving nursing for about a month. And, that month cost me about five thousand dollars in tuition: BUT, I felt right about it by waiting, whereas had I just whisically done it, I would have felt even stupider than I feel. At least in your case, quitting would not make you NOT an attorney, whereas when I quit, I lost the certification. However, during my month of thinking, I determined that finishing school AND not working at it at all would have made me feel more wasteful of time. So, it just goes to show (?). I am worried about your honey: I am thinking putting a ton of meal bars in his desk at work might help him in some way. Also, being sure that he has a cup at his desk (some people get so busy they do not visit the water cooler) so he

Re: i read somewhere

[mmmelp00]

I will take your advice...I could feel that I had fallen into a dangerous place, so I did try to limit my exposure to people at the office exactly because I didn't want to say anything horrible I might immediately regret. I do have a tendency to do and say things in the heat of the moment. am workin on it! :o) I do monitor Bud's nutrient intake as best as I can, as he is the type to forget to eat. I just wish our offices were not such a trek away from each other, as I have to go out of my way to drop in on him. Also, when he is really busy, I don't like to interrupt him (OK, the truth is that I can get a little...umm, ticked when my supposedly thoughtful stop to check in seems to be received as if it were a nagging inconvenience). Anyway, I will try to keep on keepin on. They do say the first year of law practice is the worst, and I think I am understanding what they mean...it's really emotional to constantly feel like you're gaining ground only to have it whisked away or to receive icky unexpected criticism, or to feel like,

Some how stress makes you stronger!

[anonymous]

Dear Melzer, This will not surprise you, but as bad as stress can get, it can also make you a better and stronger person. Of course, the key is overcome the stress in your life or at least find a way to mitigate its negative impact. Your job is extremely stress-related and will remain so for some time. Obviously, quitting is not a good option after so much effort to get to where you are. So, as your mom and sister-in-law have advised you, accept the fact that you are going to be working in gut-wrenching stressful conditions for some time to come. You need to assess your health and take care of #1. You can not help others much (especially Bud) if you are not physically whole and mentally fit. Life is never easy. The more responisbility you have, the tougher it gets. When I think of stress, it would be imagining what Amy and Jay must have gone through in the crowded plane on the way to DC with little Lauren screaming her high pitched (I am being murdered) never-ending scream. They found a way to handle such stress and are now

Re: Some how stress makes you stronger!

[mmmelp00]

Thanks for your post, Dad. I think the root of my stress problem is that I have never approached it properly, mainly because I erroneously associated the anxious, on-edge feeling with successful results. I am trying to retrain my brain to just settle down and focus on the project at hand, and to forget about (1) perfection and (2) everything else that could go wrong/needs to be revised/needs my attention/requires solutions I still don't know I can find no matter how much legal research I were to conduct. This past week I was not very productive, but I did manage to feel happier about the things I did work on. I was also happy to get a chance to handle telephone calls directly with one client and to write letters to an opposing counsel in another matter. I had written letters before, but typically hadn't signed my name to them. I think a huge component of my internal turmoil lately has been growing pains, feeling as if I were still at the start of the learning curve in some areas, but feeling as if I weren't being given enough