I have friends who are trans or NB. I have friends whose kids are trans or NB. I see their love, vulnerability, tenderness, and patient wisdom. When you defend JKR (or others) when she says trans women aren’t women, you’re casually punching these innocent friends of mine.

And you are not convincing me of your “side of the story” at all. You’re only ( Read more... )

Couple of announcements:
First, an LJ one. I can no longer access my mollyringwraith journal. I did not lose the password; I am a good password steward and I still had it! But when I tried to get in the other week after hearing it was subject to a security hack, LJ helpfully told me the password was too old and I had to change it. Which you can only do by email ( Read more... )

I often see people mourning what Rowling has done to HP fandom. The fandom meant so much to them, they say; they can’t just stop loving it. Ah, but can’t you? If a friend said that about a problematic ex, wouldn’t you say that wasn’t a healthy outlook?

Look, I get it, about fandom being mega-important. Fandoms have kept me out of despair at various ( Read more... )

If you're reading this, congratulations! For seriously, getting through every last day of 2021 calls for a triumphant toast, even it it feels like all you have to show for surviving the year is a heap of empty cheese puff bags. (I honestly ordered my family a case of twelve bags of Barbara's Cheese Puffs as part of our Christmas celebrations, so, ( Read more... )

Now that it's fall in the US, let's examine this little meme. And let's ideally stop sharing it because it's ignorant. I shall explain.


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Miscellaneous editing tips: a roundup

I think I’ll post these from time to time, as I find it fun, and someone out there might find them helpful. This batch consists of tips that I originally posted as tweets over the past year or so. ( My Twitter is here, if you want it.) These came from the year-long editing course I took, as well as the paid ( Read more... )

[TW: medical; cancer though ultimately not] Today I’d like to thank the absurd amounts of tea (green, black, and herbal) I drink every day, whose antioxidants have kept me safe another year. I bring this up because on Monday I had a breast biopsy, and have just learned the growth in question is benign-a common noncancerous lesion. All good for the ( Read more... )

In Lava Red Feather Blue, Merrick awakens Larkin (and the destructive faery Ula Kana) in March 2020, unleashing all kinds of mayhem on his country. Given the date, you might wonder: does Ula Kana represent COVID-19?

The short and obvious answer is no, I didn't intend that, nor could I have, given I wrote the entire thing before anyone had heard of ( Read more... )

I only lately learned we demisexual folk count as LGTBQ+, according to many. Do I now get to call All the Better Part of Me #OwnVoices? Well no, I'm still not a tall cis bi man, so it's still not OwnVoices that way.

One would also be forgiven for being surprised to hear I'm demi, given the general sex-positivity and/or perviness of my writing and ( Read more... )

Ordinarily I’m not one of those people who leaves really long Amazon reviews. But for The Untamed there’s not really anywhere else notable to leave one, and it deserves one! So here is what I posted. Let’s hope Amazon approves it. If not, it's here, anyway.

Short review:

YES, WATCH THIS SHOW! I’m picky about shows. I don’t enter into obsessive ( Read more... )