Comments | moneysucks: Greener on the other side?

moneysucks

Greener on the other side?

May 30, 2005 03:16

I like to think of myself as a pretty mature person the vast majority of the time, or at least very outwardly in control of myself. So why I am still so fucking prone to jealousy for stupid reasons? Currently it's 2 things ( Read more... )

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yellow_rose May 30 2005, 15:15:11 UTC

wow. what a post. usually, i don't like to post anything that shows real vulnerability...it's a little scary. way to say what you really feel, and i am sure that everyone has these feelings. popularity is a mysterious thing. i've never really gotten it. i'm not "cool", that's for sure.

but i've also decided that being cool is overrated, and that i like small, close groups of friends.

moneysucks May 30 2005, 17:20:34 UTC

Yeah, I totally agree with you on that last bit.

It's not popularity that I'm after... I'd rather have close friends than a lot of friends (though being respected and generally liked is important for my ego). But it'd just be nice to decide that I want to get to know someone, and know how to go about doing so. Cause I have no clue. I tend to just kinda hope that they decide I'm worth paying attention to.

mystful May 31 2005, 20:15:33 UTC

I think having the courage to show a real interest in someone else - taking the step of displaying an interest/care that might not be reciprocated - goes a long way towards getting to know someone. Just talking with them about how their day was and really wanting to know, for instance. It takes more courage than one might think.

But you also have to be good at recognizing when they're not so interested in being friends and back off without taking it personally.

Anyways, I wish I could bottle a way of getting to know people. Each one is so unique and likes to be cared for in such different ways...

stephaniesays10 May 31 2005, 20:41:33 UTC

I FEEL YA ON THE RELATIONSHIP ENVY!

owlishness June 10 2005, 13:44:57 UTC

Heya. Sorry I missed you when you left.

I know what you mean about the jealousy. I've done it before too. I still get irrationally jealous of people who date guys who are friends of mine, even when I've actually turned down a relationship with them...Dumb, isn't it? This is probably not the best place to hold a really long conversation about it. Get online or call me sometime, yo.

--Alicia