It sucks that you've gotta be torn like this, especially so soon after you experienced the joys of fatherhood. Have you told the wife (whose name I am not comfortable giving out via livejournal) how unhappy you are where you are now? Would you maybe be happy anywhere else that wasn't MI, even though you have family and friends there? Would she? The only advice I can really offer is to discuss this, as calmly and rationally as possible, with her and see if you can't come to some kind of compromise or something. I wish you luck, seriously.
As long as you're not happy, it will snowball. Having a stable future is definitely important. Happiness for both of you is important. I'm sure there are plenty of places within Michigan that are not too close to your mom that would be within a good commuting distance. No one is happy with no income.
Personally, I think the "being too close to your mom" argument is silly.
I agree that the "too close to your mom" argument is a bit silly, but that depends on how much your mom would be in your wife's hair. Would your mom be by the house every day? Or would she be the type where you could live next door and only see her on the weekends, if that? Is there any real reason that she might be concerned about being too close to your mother? (See, I can ask this, since I'm actually going to move in NEXT DOOR to my mother-in-law, if all goes well... at some point.) :)
Also... You really need to be happy too. It's not just about whether one person is happy. BOTH people need to be happy. Michigan is a big state. There has to be some way to compromise.
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Personally, I think the "being too close to your mom" argument is silly.
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Also... You really need to be happy too. It's not just about whether one person is happy. BOTH people need to be happy. Michigan is a big state. There has to be some way to compromise.
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