No, really. :) The nurses will tell you breastfeeding doesn't hurt if you are doing it right - AND THEY ARE LYING. For the first couple of weeks, you have to get used to that feeling, and that's a sensitive area! But soon, it will get a lot better. If you can make it three weeks, you won't even notice her latching on.
Hormones - give it another few days. Mine were much more balanced after 3 days.
Days and nights - soon, soon. My friend told me that "in six weeks, you'll have a whole new baby" and she was right. They DO figure it out eventually.
Also, make Jay get up and help you when he can! Have him change the dirty diapers, then bring Alice to you to eat. If you are unable to sleep during the day, you need him to help with night, or you will burn out. *hugs* If I could come help you and not get fired, I would.
Hi Erin, it's Mrs. H here. Why isn't Jay helping with night times? He could have been walking the baby while you got some rest. Your friends will adjust to the baby, but I'm surprised that they are yelling at you. If it gets too overwhelming, there are social workers through the hospital and your doctor's office that can offer strategies to cope. A new baby is more than a full time job - and it is difficult to see beyond the craziness of the moment. It will be like this for a long time, you need to get support so that you can take the best possible care of Alice! Do you think your mom would come up and stay with you for a while? She understands what the job is, and would be an awsome teacher for the Jay and the room mates.
matt and i had a good system down with night time feedings- we each did every other night. we both had to work in the morning (well after summer vacation), we both liked and needed to sleep, and this system allow us to get a decent week sleep. once you get a pump- work with jay on a system that works with you... and do not have him sell you the excuse "well i have to work..."; you can work on a system where you do the middle of the night feedings and he does the early night and mornings.
no offense to your roomies but babies cry. that is there schick. if she wants you to stick out your lease she is going to have to get use to it. and to repeat everyone else says- it does get easier.
Hopefully, once I start pumping, we'll come up with a good system. I think it's a little difficult right now because there's not a lot Jay feels like he can do. If I need to walk away though, he's good at trying to soothe her, there have been many times this week he's been able to do it when I havn't! I think most of the frustration comes out of having to be 'on call' all of the time for feeding her. I don't do well w.o sleep, and am very cranky when I get woken up. Also, he works 3pm-11pm, so he has no excuse for not helping me out at night! :P
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No, really. :) The nurses will tell you breastfeeding doesn't hurt if you are doing it right - AND THEY ARE LYING. For the first couple of weeks, you have to get used to that feeling, and that's a sensitive area! But soon, it will get a lot better. If you can make it three weeks, you won't even notice her latching on.
Hormones - give it another few days. Mine were much more balanced after 3 days.
Days and nights - soon, soon. My friend told me that "in six weeks, you'll have a whole new baby" and she was right. They DO figure it out eventually.
It's hard, but so worth it! Good luck!
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no offense to your roomies but babies cry. that is there schick. if she wants you to stick out your lease she is going to have to get use to it. and to repeat everyone else says- it does get easier.
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I think it's a little difficult right now because there's not a lot Jay feels like he can do. If I need to walk away though, he's good at trying to soothe her, there have been many times this week he's been able to do it when I havn't!
I think most of the frustration comes out of having to be 'on call' all of the time for feeding her. I don't do well w.o sleep, and am very cranky when I get woken up.
Also, he works 3pm-11pm, so he has no excuse for not helping me out at night! :P
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