The man I'd be...

[moominmuppet]

I have become more and more certain and comfortable in my genderqueerness over the years. I don't think I've gotten commensurately easier to read as such, though. If anything, the opposite. I tell people, and expect them to respect it, but without that it'd be under the radar or incorrectly identified by many, much of the time. Many more than would

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[redbird]

I've missed your long, thinky posts and am glad to see you back here.

[moominmuppet]

Thank you; it's a tremendous relief to be writing substantively again.

[heron61]

I'm pleased to see you posting again. Also, this post meshes interestingly with some of my own thoughts about how I deliberately work to seem non-threatening and that if I was female, I both would not only not need such behaviors, but continuing to engage in them would render me entirely socially invisible and irrelevant, much like the reverse of how when my friend Aaron transitioned and went from being seen as a woman who was sufficiently outspoken that most people took them seriously to being seen as (with the same behaviors) an overly aggressive and intimidating man.

Also, from the PoV of attempting to balance my own different sides is that while I see a wealth of negative things about our culture's images & expectations of femininity, outside of sissy/fop image and associated social role and the overlap between sissy and nerd, there's very little of masculinity that I don't find to be either alien, toxic, or both.

[moominmuppet]

*nod* The interaction of perceived gender and behavior interpretation is endlessly fascinating to me