All relationships.

[moonwaltz]

Do all relationships end up being arguments revolving around shitty little subjects rather than having someone say what they really mean?

Or do I just have that kind of intimidating personality where it's easier to talk about slices of pizza rather than greater issues?

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[moonwaltz]

haha thank you sweetie :) The shitty little argument wasn't about pizza, that just came into my head at the time. I was probably asking for it - I don't imagine my tone was particularly pleasant. Though I'm not sure how much pleasant voice animation one should expect at 2.30am.

[moonvoice]

*hugs*
I know for me personally, I have a real problem saying what I mean when I hurt so bad that I no longer trust anyone else around me.

Which is usually during those shitty little arguments that make you feel uber-depressed and frazzled and like 'oh come ON' afterwards.

*more hugs*
See, I can do them over the internet.

*sighs*

[moonwaltz]

There is definitely a big "oh come on" factor.. or in my mind it goes a bit more like "oh for heavens sake!" but same same lah

I find that the little arguments happen when I'm just simply not happy. They happen in relationships, with exes and sometimes, but rarely with friends. I used to rationalise it by thinking that "these are the people who I talk to the most therefore they see me through all sorts of moods" but I think it's more than that.

I'll take my share of the blame when it comes to the little shitty arguments, I know my exasperated tone and dismissive nature doesn't help them (though at 2.30am of course it will sound exasperated and dismissive..)

Yay for internet hugs :) they'll sustain me.. for now at least *hug*

[thisaboveall]

Yes they do - all intense relationships end up this way because we are too afraid to really hurt someone and rather than address the issue which also exposes yourself and your feelings its easy to argue about how you like the rug positioned on the floor.

[moonwaltz]

I think it's harder for me to argue about the rug on the floor, because it seems less tangible to me. I mean, where's the argument in the little things? I feel too often that something is trying to be grasped at that just isn't there and that I've suddenly become the "male" in the relationship trying to read the others mind into the real issue.

I'm sure we've all done it, unfortunately, I'm just.. tired of it. Which, if anything, probably makes it worse.

You messaged on facebook, and I've been tardy and not responded. But my hearts been there.

[thisaboveall]

REally here i was thinking i had become so 'male' in just wanting to not think about it, to not bother about it, to just pretend it all away.

It's okay - life happens when you're busy making other plans.