The only time I have any contact with exes is when - out of the blue - one of them will either email or phone me, which thankfully doesn't happen often, because it's *never* welcome. Mostly I wish they'd get over me and leave me alone.
Ex-husband had this idea that we should be friends after the divorce, so I tried to oblige him for several years, then told him, sorry, no can do
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My most recent ex I get along with fine. I rarely see her, but we're FB "friends," and running into her wouldn't be any sort of disaster, even if I did so with the current GF. Most of my exes are that way.
However, the ex from about 10 years ago I never want to see or speak to again. Since we live in different states, and she now has a child, that probably won't be a problem. We have a mutual friend base; I see those folks rarely, but some of them are really good friends. I don't think she'd come down this way with any of them (or by herself) at this point, and I have no intention of going wherever-the-hell she happens to be.
Ex #1 reconnected with me after five years through the MyBarackObama website and was appropriately apologetic. When I met up with him he was sober and honestly would fit in wonderfully with my current friends, which both validated the fact that I really had seen something in him that really REALLY HAD BEEN THERE, and reminded me of just how little of this I had gotten to be around while he was struggling with drugs. I was glad to have met up with him and I'm glad that we're on good terms instead of "I'm going to pretend you no longer exist for my own good" terms. Despite the fact that I needed five years of zero contact, if he lived in the same city as us rather than the nearby one, I would happily have him around my social group. Now, just because I have sort of reached a place of peace with the misery he caused me doesn't mean that the people who love me have, but I wouldn't mind introducing them to the guy I spent two years trying to keep together, particularly now that they actually are likely to meet him and really meet him, not
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Cool, thanks for that. It's remarkable that #1 pulled himself together. I don't really know how drama comes at some people and not others. Or whether I'm immune or just overdue.
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However, the ex from about 10 years ago I never want to see or speak to again. Since we live in different states, and she now has a child, that probably won't be a problem. We have a mutual friend base; I see those folks rarely, but some of them are really good friends. I don't think she'd come down this way with any of them (or by herself) at this point, and I have no intention of going wherever-the-hell she happens to be.
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