Comments | mpellet771: Fathers dying

mpellet771

Fathers dying

Aug 30, 2005 16:09

Today I went to the wake of the father of one of my staff. She was teary eyed when we showed up and she put her tears away while we were there. It is odd to have your boss show up in front of your dead father ( Read more... )

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cheekyassmonkey August 30 2005, 20:18:35 UTC

first, it doesn't matter if he's sick or not, he could die tomorrow, and you will have to deal with it. the "i'm so sick" routine is guilt and manipulation, and is completely beside the point.

as far as what to do? that all depends on what you want. there cannot always be 'peace', but if you feel that there are things you need to say (not things that he needs to hear, because you can't do jackshit about that), in order for you to have peace, then do it. if you don't think that will do either of you any good, and that you won't regret not doing it if he gets hit by a truck tomorrow, then just go on with your life. sometimes, our relationships with other people end up having very little to do with the other person.

mpellet771 August 30 2005, 20:27:43 UTC

I guess that's as practical as you can get. Thanks.

cheekyassmonkey August 30 2005, 20:40:42 UTC

was i being too pragmatic again? put some fluffly pillows and hugs in there, and you'll have a better impression of my intentions :)

mpellet771 August 30 2005, 21:33:25 UTC

Thanks! The fluffy pillows will help me sleep.