True colours shining thru

[mrs_urahara]

Man, lately, i have been truly seeing the masks of my friends come flying off. I have, sadly, had to terminate 3 friendships in the past week. it's like a friendicide happening. MY problem is that I am a nice person. A really nice person. add to that, i have the attitude of "there is good in everyone".  I think this is why this chest congestion is

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[reynardine]

I just wanted to say--thank YOU for being so friendly. Even if we are just acquainted through LJ, it's nice to know someone else who is a big jdrama fan, and I always appreciate your kind comments when I blog.

I totally understand about person #1 up there--my husband and I know a guy who does very much the same thing. Always saying "Let's Get Together!", but when you try to schedule something, he never replies. I've written him off after several attempts, although my husband still talks to him on occasion when they run into one another.

[mrs_urahara]

awww, m-chan, you are too sweet. ^_____^
ahhh, the jdoramas that bond us. heehee. i think the january(winter) season is going to be a good one, with HYD2. woohoo!

so, i am not the only one who has had this kind of experience with someone. That must have annoyed you to no ends. why do people say that? act like they want to see you, when they really don't. >.

[chibi_tenshi24]

*BIG ASS HUGS

[mrs_urahara]

There's always one basic principle I live by: Don't say something you don't mean. If you can't come up with the time to do something or commit to something once you've said it, don't say it. Beyond the fact that you become a liar, you also wind up disappointing and hurting someone else.

that's a good principle to live by. I usually am like that, i am finding that, as I get older, I just don't have time for games and superficiality. And, i think this is further cementing that belief.

Even if she wasn't willing to help out for whatever stupid reason, all she had to do was politely reply and say "I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable with doing this." It's juvenile...yes! that;s what i felt, when it happened. If she did NOT want to do it, instead of BLATANTLY ignoring me for MONTHS she could have EASILY said she was uncomfortable doing this

[neigehilde]

Don't let it let you down. And yes, I think you're right and there's good in everyone, just as there's bad in everyone, so it's not like those people are without any redeeming qualities -it's just that they obviously don't care about you enough to show them. And if not - who needs them anyway

[mrs_urahara]

thanks for your support sweetie!*BIG HUGS

[neigehilde]

Oh, no, I can totally understand you=)))
Surely if the other professionals tell you he was just being mean and NOT constructive, you should just smile and stop showing him anything. And yes, professional criticism and a general "thumbs up" are different things, quite with you there=))
Don't be discouraged.

[mrs_urahara]

yeh, that is what was the real bummer, because, I was confused by his critique. i thought 'this sounds really harsh'. so, that's why i gave it to other professional friends who would tell me if i was just being a sensitive sillyheart or not. you know we creative types are the sensitives one. heehee

shoot, speaking of reading scripts...i have got to read the rewrites on the script i start pre-production on in january. GAH! ugh. i am so sef-absorbed right now. quite pathetic. ^^;;

[spacemonkeyku]

In general, people suck. I've long since given up wondering why people do the things they do.

I DO know that when someone says "We should get together" but doesn't bother to have an exact date or time, it's basically just something to say. Most times it's because they feel guilty, but that's normally when you run into them somewhere. Why someone would make a point of contacting you just to say that, makes no sense!

You're in a buisness where people tend to look out for themselves too, so right off that can taint a friendship.

Obviously, you're just too caring and trusting. Which sucks because YOU'RE the one who gets hurt by these things. Keep in mind, karma is an amazing thing! ^^ You're better off without them in your life anyway. Just TRY not to let it get you down too much!

[mrs_urahara]

yeh, i am in the business where that happens ALOT, but, ironically, for the past 4yrs since coming into this industry, i have had made really strong connections and friendships, which USUALLY doesn't happen. heh-heh. guess the luck could not last that long.heehee

thanks for being a friend! *BIG HUGS!!*