Did a brief glance through the forms we need to fill out for adoption. Holy CRAP there are a lot of forms and just to get started with the adoption person
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If you can believe it, we had to do ALL of that to adopt our own kids, so don't feel special. :)
Our experience (which is admittedly a little different since we were already caring for the kids) was that all of the people involved really wanted to make it work out for everyone. The home study was little more than a chat at the table... we were the ones who insisted she take a look around since we'd gone to all the trouble of cleaning up for her. :)
The hardest part for us was coming up with a list of every. single. address. we'd ever lived at since we were 18. We were both vagabonds as kids so man oh man was that a challenge. I actually got 1 address by sleuthing around on Google Earth!
Don't let the forms intimidate you! Just take them one at a time, nothing harder than a basic day at work (minus the WT!)
I agree with Crowjoy, from our experience it was all about "how can we make this happen." They wanted to make sure we had a designated room for the baby/child, not that it was set up for one already. (Our's had computer equipment covering every available surface.) As for animals, our dog went nuts barking when they came in and she didn't bat an eye. I think if he had attempted to bite or had a record of biting, it would've been a different story. We didn't own a single baby gate/outlet cover and they didn't care. Just wanted to make sure that we understood that we would need them.
And you know what, I'm not a social worker, but I think having a whole room already set-up for a kid would be kind of freaky, isn't it? Everyone knows that adoption takes a while, so it's not like they're going to drop a kid in your lap any minute.
I think it would be creepy. I mean - if we got right down to the "there is a mom - and she is picking YOU" - I still don't know if I'd run right out and outfit a whole room (because she could change her mind). But a carseat, a bed (crib? cradle?), blankies & clothes? Seems appropriate THEN.
I'm thinking the questions re: sexual experiences are trying to get at whether or not someone suffered from sexual abuse, since people who have been abused can become abusers (in higher-than-non-abused numbers). The pet thing is a good thing for ANY potential parent to consider, though with an inside cat, unless they've been around a lot of babies, how would you KNOW? I certainly didn't, and I'm still having a hard time sussing it out now, leading James and I to construct a cat barrier because we don't totally trust Isis at night right now when I can't be vigilant.
Having a room for baby is good (we don't even have that). Having it set up, etc., WOULD be creepy, and I think might actually count against you at this point. Of course, if you're anything like me, and I suspect that you are, you've probably collected a few little things that you couldn't pass up during all these years of waiting - I think that is normal, healthy, and to be expected).
I'm so excited that you've gotten the ball rolling! :D
I don't know if I have that many things still. I have given a fair bit of it away actually. But in my head - it's all planned out!! Just not purchased.
And we do have a room we could use for Baby. I mean - once I figure out where to put all my crafty bits!!
I just don't KNOW how Thatcher would react. I've been asking - he's not saying. He might like the maternity leave that leaves his Momma how ALLLLL day for a whoooole year. Or he might just get annoyed by me.
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Our experience (which is admittedly a little different since we were already caring for the kids) was that all of the people involved really wanted to make it work out for everyone. The home study was little more than a chat at the table... we were the ones who insisted she take a look around since we'd gone to all the trouble of cleaning up for her. :)
The hardest part for us was coming up with a list of every. single. address. we'd ever lived at since we were 18. We were both vagabonds as kids so man oh man was that a challenge. I actually got 1 address by sleuthing around on Google Earth!
Don't let the forms intimidate you! Just take them one at a time, nothing harder than a basic day at work (minus the WT!)
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As for animals, our dog went nuts barking when they came in and she didn't bat an eye. I think if he had attempted to bite or had a record of biting, it would've been a different story.
We didn't own a single baby gate/outlet cover and they didn't care. Just wanted to make sure that we understood that we would need them.
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But a carseat, a bed (crib? cradle?), blankies & clothes? Seems appropriate THEN.
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Having a room for baby is good (we don't even have that). Having it set up, etc., WOULD be creepy, and I think might actually count against you at this point. Of course, if you're anything like me, and I suspect that you are, you've probably collected a few little things that you couldn't pass up during all these years of waiting - I think that is normal, healthy, and to be expected).
I'm so excited that you've gotten the ball rolling! :D
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And we do have a room we could use for Baby. I mean - once I figure out where to put all my crafty bits!!
I just don't KNOW how Thatcher would react. I've been asking - he's not saying. He might like the maternity leave that leaves his Momma how ALLLLL day for a whoooole year. Or he might just get annoyed by me.
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