Necessity is the mother of invention
Now if you are conservative or easily shocked you might want to move on to another entry to read as this one shall have references to BDSM in it.
Right.... all the sensitives ones gone now?
Ok, well, here's the news.
I have mentioned from time to time about the D/s relationship that tygrr and I enjoy. Normally a bit of mutually enjoyed S&M is also a healthy part of our relationship too.
Over the last year or so though, while we have worked at keeping the D/s alive and thriving - after all I cannot be other than who I am - the S&M side of it has slid, more and more dramatically over time.
We've also remarked lately too that even the companionable side of our relationship seems to really struggle to find time. The reason for this has slowly become apparent.
When tygrr first moved here she was not permitted to work for a couple of years, so we had plenty of time to be together, have fun, and enjoy some S&M. Then she was allowed to work at last and got a part time job. With a bit of adjustment and allowances for her work hours we still managed to enjoy each other's company, as well as a little S&M, although not as much as previously.
Then for the last year she has worked at her new job. The new job began part time and worked up to full time gradually - so the changes it brought were only felt gradually also.
Finally we got to the point where we decided something had to be done. Tygrr works full time and spends a good half of her weekends doing her washing and other weekend chores she has. I have gotten to the point where I work nearly full time on my writing, as well as doing the cooking, sorting out the finances, looking after the general running of the house, shepherding and supporting one teenaged daughter and trying to find time to clean the bathroom and loo as well.
What was happening then was that on weekends which are our main free times, we were both spending at least half of it on chores. We don't always see each other in the mornings when I work well as I've often been up all night writing, so I stay up, send troll off to school and then collapse into bed before she even gets home. Of an evening we have about an hour and a half which we share with troll before she has to go to work.
So, finding time just to talk, let alone relax together, let alone do any S&M was getting harder and harder.
I put my thinking cap on and came up with a solution. This is where most folks would think I am being very naughty!
You see, out there in the bdsm community there are a LOT of submissive men with masochistic tendencies just dying to have a Mistress condescend to beat them. I am a sadist whose girl is working too hard for me to get time to beat her.
So I decided to combine my need with theirs. I have put up a notice on my profile at a couple of bdsm sites that I am seeking a houseboy - a boy to perform domestic duties in return for a good beating.
Tygrr and I had talked it over and decided that it might just be what we need.
If we have a boy who does some of the main chores - cleaning the floors, cleaning the bathroom and loo - then it would leave tygrr and I that much more time to relax together on the weekends. Giving him a good beating afterwards would also keep my inner sadist happy and 'keep my hand in' so to speak for when tygrr does have the time and energy to enjoy that sort of thing herself.
The really cool thing is, while yes, we do get a proportion of men who are only out for sex on the side, we also get quite a few sincere blokes who will do anything to get their beating!
So over the last week or two I've been interviewing likely candidates online. Yes, there are lots of showponies and wannabes, but the one that has caught my eye is a sweet chap who is frank, honest and has a good sense of humour. He is married to 'the love of my life' as he puts it and his wife is aware of his kinky leanings but does not have a kinky bone in her own body. Therefore she is happy for him to seek his beatings elsewhere as long as he is safe.
Yes, I know that sounds odd to you non-kinky 'vanilla' flavoured folks out there, but trust me, there is a lot of fun that can be had in a beating without causing any permanent harm. If you know what you are doing you can even do it without leaving bruises, although most masochists are disappointed if you do that. They like their 'badges of honour'.
So, as long as he enjoys his beatings but I do no lasting harm (and I play far too safely to do that), then she is happy for him to serve me one evening a week and some time on a day on the weekends. That should be enough to get done what I want done as well as let him have his fun!
We have been emailing back and forth for some time now and have arranged to meet face to face (with tygrr of course) for the first time this sunday. The closer sunday comes the more excited he is sounding. Somehow I don't think I will have much worry about his final decision once we have met.
The funny thing is, as tygrr said, one has to fight the inclination to rush around and clean first so he doesn't think the house is a mess when he finally sees it!...lol
So there you have it. We have decided to take on a houseboy. Well..... actually.... with the number of submissive men applying, I may even take on two, and get our laundry done too!
Now you know why you haven't seen me for a while. I've been off busy interviewing men to do my cleaning for me!
Sometimes life is good...:)
Red
Right.... all the sensitives ones gone now?
Ok, well, here's the news.
I have mentioned from time to time about the D/s relationship that tygrr and I enjoy. Normally a bit of mutually enjoyed S&M is also a healthy part of our relationship too.
Over the last year or so though, while we have worked at keeping the D/s alive and thriving - after all I cannot be other than who I am - the S&M side of it has slid, more and more dramatically over time.
We've also remarked lately too that even the companionable side of our relationship seems to really struggle to find time. The reason for this has slowly become apparent.
When tygrr first moved here she was not permitted to work for a couple of years, so we had plenty of time to be together, have fun, and enjoy some S&M. Then she was allowed to work at last and got a part time job. With a bit of adjustment and allowances for her work hours we still managed to enjoy each other's company, as well as a little S&M, although not as much as previously.
Then for the last year she has worked at her new job. The new job began part time and worked up to full time gradually - so the changes it brought were only felt gradually also.
Finally we got to the point where we decided something had to be done. Tygrr works full time and spends a good half of her weekends doing her washing and other weekend chores she has. I have gotten to the point where I work nearly full time on my writing, as well as doing the cooking, sorting out the finances, looking after the general running of the house, shepherding and supporting one teenaged daughter and trying to find time to clean the bathroom and loo as well.
What was happening then was that on weekends which are our main free times, we were both spending at least half of it on chores. We don't always see each other in the mornings when I work well as I've often been up all night writing, so I stay up, send troll off to school and then collapse into bed before she even gets home. Of an evening we have about an hour and a half which we share with troll before she has to go to work.
So, finding time just to talk, let alone relax together, let alone do any S&M was getting harder and harder.
I put my thinking cap on and came up with a solution. This is where most folks would think I am being very naughty!
You see, out there in the bdsm community there are a LOT of submissive men with masochistic tendencies just dying to have a Mistress condescend to beat them. I am a sadist whose girl is working too hard for me to get time to beat her.
So I decided to combine my need with theirs. I have put up a notice on my profile at a couple of bdsm sites that I am seeking a houseboy - a boy to perform domestic duties in return for a good beating.
Tygrr and I had talked it over and decided that it might just be what we need.
If we have a boy who does some of the main chores - cleaning the floors, cleaning the bathroom and loo - then it would leave tygrr and I that much more time to relax together on the weekends. Giving him a good beating afterwards would also keep my inner sadist happy and 'keep my hand in' so to speak for when tygrr does have the time and energy to enjoy that sort of thing herself.
The really cool thing is, while yes, we do get a proportion of men who are only out for sex on the side, we also get quite a few sincere blokes who will do anything to get their beating!
So over the last week or two I've been interviewing likely candidates online. Yes, there are lots of showponies and wannabes, but the one that has caught my eye is a sweet chap who is frank, honest and has a good sense of humour. He is married to 'the love of my life' as he puts it and his wife is aware of his kinky leanings but does not have a kinky bone in her own body. Therefore she is happy for him to seek his beatings elsewhere as long as he is safe.
Yes, I know that sounds odd to you non-kinky 'vanilla' flavoured folks out there, but trust me, there is a lot of fun that can be had in a beating without causing any permanent harm. If you know what you are doing you can even do it without leaving bruises, although most masochists are disappointed if you do that. They like their 'badges of honour'.
So, as long as he enjoys his beatings but I do no lasting harm (and I play far too safely to do that), then she is happy for him to serve me one evening a week and some time on a day on the weekends. That should be enough to get done what I want done as well as let him have his fun!
We have been emailing back and forth for some time now and have arranged to meet face to face (with tygrr of course) for the first time this sunday. The closer sunday comes the more excited he is sounding. Somehow I don't think I will have much worry about his final decision once we have met.
The funny thing is, as tygrr said, one has to fight the inclination to rush around and clean first so he doesn't think the house is a mess when he finally sees it!...lol
So there you have it. We have decided to take on a houseboy. Well..... actually.... with the number of submissive men applying, I may even take on two, and get our laundry done too!
Now you know why you haven't seen me for a while. I've been off busy interviewing men to do my cleaning for me!
Sometimes life is good...:)
Red
