Ongoing results
My decision to seek a houseboy has led me on an interesting journey.
As was to be expected there were a lot of 'wannabes' who applied to 'serve' me - wannabes who either wanted to dictate what happened, or were married men looking for sex behind their wife's back.
There was even a 'Dom' who behaves awfully submissive who I think is also just a wannabe looking for sex. We had an interesting discussion about the difference between submission and 'forcing' someone to do my will. Even troll, who has watched our conversations on IM has remarked on how often his comments have 'what You want' in them! Very submissive for a Dom!
In all the flotsam though there have been some more serious responses. One, one of the first to apply, has actually caught my eye and impresses me every time we communicate. He is a local submissive, the same age as I. He is married, but his wife whom he dearly loves is not in the scene at all and doesn't mind that he is.
In the past his experience has been with a Pro-Domme and he has never had a personal Mistress. It seems thatour conversations as we negotiated his possible service to me appealed to him as much as to me - to the extent that he focussed on it so much his wife became jealous and withdrew her permission for him to serve me!
Rather than sneak around behind her back, or try to decieve me that all was above board, the boy was open and honest with me about the situation. I offered him some suggestions which might help the situation - including inviting his wife to meet myself and tygrr and perhaps even witness a scene so she could assure herself that her husband's interaction with me was not going to be of a romantic or sexual nature. I also suggested he let her read my emails to him, so she could see this was not my intent.
After a few days of discussions with her, she eventually conceded to read my emails. After reading them she withdrew her prohibition on his service to me as she felt very reassured as to my integrity.
The boy was very grateful to me for helping in this situation but I was also impressed with his honesty and his respect for his wife's wishes. He would not have served me if she had been upset by it.
Throughout all my discussions with him I have liked his down to earth and open nature. I have sensed he is trustworthy and also deduced that he is going to be one hell of a good boy! He is a heavy masochist so likes the S&M play, but in particular likes to be controlled. He likes to know who is in command and if that means that he comes to visit me for five hours and does nothing but scrub my floor for five hours then so be it, as far as he is concerned.
So, impressed with our discussions and with the prohibition lifted, I arranged a first meeting this evening. It had been going to be just he and I, but then tygrr had the day off work, and then troll had to come too as with tygrr with me, no one would be home for troll.
Well, I had arranged for the boy to meet me at a public cafe. He had been instructed that upon his arrival he must kneel on one knee to greet me. I had permitted him to use any ruse he needed to do this - tying a shoe lace, or picking up dropped keys - but had informed him that if he wished to serve me he MUST kneel in greeting.
Now, to instruct a new boy to do this is one thing - to expect him to do it in front of tygrr AND my daughter was another, so I took pity on him and as the time arrived for his expected arrival, tygrr and troll moved to a nearby table so they could see him arrive, but not intimidate him by their presence.
And arrive he did - on time and very nervous! he did his kneel beautifully using the loose shoelace as the ruse and then joined me at the table. We discussed matters for a while before I beckoned tygrr and troll to join us. he was both amused and a little shy to think they had been observing us since his arrival.
Not long after he arrived tygrr took troll to a nearby cinema to watch a movie, enabling boy and I to talk by ourselves for a while before tygrr rejoined us.
I like his demeanor. I like his willingness which seems to be sincere rather than a shallow effort to impress and flatter. I particularly like his down to earth nature. There is not a whiff of 'game player' about him. He is seeking a long term situation and that suits me.
So tomorrow afternoon he arrives for his first lesson on serving a Dragon. It should be very, very interesting.
His wife, it turns out, is a nurse. So it has been agreed that he shall serve me one evening a week (when his wife is on evening shift) and one half day on the weekends (again while his wife is at work).
So far I am most impressed by him. So is tygrr.
There are a couple of other boys who I am still considering. We have agreed that having two or even three boys to work around the house would mean a lighter work load for each of them and more time for play. It would also mean a spotless house, even if each of them could only serve one afternoon or evening a week. This is all a good thing. The others are not as open in their nature as boy is - and yes, that is what I shall be calling him while he serves me. If I decide to keep him after he has proven himself as a worker, he shall be known as Dragon's boy when we mix in the local bdsm scene.
But I suspect their wariness is natural wariness in a potentially risky situation rather than 'hiding something' wariness. To make sure I am simply taking longer in my negotiations with them until I am sure they are sincere. There is no rush. Finding a good boy is not easy and even a good boy may not automatically suit me, or me suit him.
I do think though that I have found a gem with boy. Tomorrow shall be the real test though. Words are cheap. Actions speak volumes. I shall keep you all informed!
Red
As was to be expected there were a lot of 'wannabes' who applied to 'serve' me - wannabes who either wanted to dictate what happened, or were married men looking for sex behind their wife's back.
There was even a 'Dom' who behaves awfully submissive who I think is also just a wannabe looking for sex. We had an interesting discussion about the difference between submission and 'forcing' someone to do my will. Even troll, who has watched our conversations on IM has remarked on how often his comments have 'what You want' in them! Very submissive for a Dom!
In all the flotsam though there have been some more serious responses. One, one of the first to apply, has actually caught my eye and impresses me every time we communicate. He is a local submissive, the same age as I. He is married, but his wife whom he dearly loves is not in the scene at all and doesn't mind that he is.
In the past his experience has been with a Pro-Domme and he has never had a personal Mistress. It seems thatour conversations as we negotiated his possible service to me appealed to him as much as to me - to the extent that he focussed on it so much his wife became jealous and withdrew her permission for him to serve me!
Rather than sneak around behind her back, or try to decieve me that all was above board, the boy was open and honest with me about the situation. I offered him some suggestions which might help the situation - including inviting his wife to meet myself and tygrr and perhaps even witness a scene so she could assure herself that her husband's interaction with me was not going to be of a romantic or sexual nature. I also suggested he let her read my emails to him, so she could see this was not my intent.
After a few days of discussions with her, she eventually conceded to read my emails. After reading them she withdrew her prohibition on his service to me as she felt very reassured as to my integrity.
The boy was very grateful to me for helping in this situation but I was also impressed with his honesty and his respect for his wife's wishes. He would not have served me if she had been upset by it.
Throughout all my discussions with him I have liked his down to earth and open nature. I have sensed he is trustworthy and also deduced that he is going to be one hell of a good boy! He is a heavy masochist so likes the S&M play, but in particular likes to be controlled. He likes to know who is in command and if that means that he comes to visit me for five hours and does nothing but scrub my floor for five hours then so be it, as far as he is concerned.
So, impressed with our discussions and with the prohibition lifted, I arranged a first meeting this evening. It had been going to be just he and I, but then tygrr had the day off work, and then troll had to come too as with tygrr with me, no one would be home for troll.
Well, I had arranged for the boy to meet me at a public cafe. He had been instructed that upon his arrival he must kneel on one knee to greet me. I had permitted him to use any ruse he needed to do this - tying a shoe lace, or picking up dropped keys - but had informed him that if he wished to serve me he MUST kneel in greeting.
Now, to instruct a new boy to do this is one thing - to expect him to do it in front of tygrr AND my daughter was another, so I took pity on him and as the time arrived for his expected arrival, tygrr and troll moved to a nearby table so they could see him arrive, but not intimidate him by their presence.
And arrive he did - on time and very nervous! he did his kneel beautifully using the loose shoelace as the ruse and then joined me at the table. We discussed matters for a while before I beckoned tygrr and troll to join us. he was both amused and a little shy to think they had been observing us since his arrival.
Not long after he arrived tygrr took troll to a nearby cinema to watch a movie, enabling boy and I to talk by ourselves for a while before tygrr rejoined us.
I like his demeanor. I like his willingness which seems to be sincere rather than a shallow effort to impress and flatter. I particularly like his down to earth nature. There is not a whiff of 'game player' about him. He is seeking a long term situation and that suits me.
So tomorrow afternoon he arrives for his first lesson on serving a Dragon. It should be very, very interesting.
His wife, it turns out, is a nurse. So it has been agreed that he shall serve me one evening a week (when his wife is on evening shift) and one half day on the weekends (again while his wife is at work).
So far I am most impressed by him. So is tygrr.
There are a couple of other boys who I am still considering. We have agreed that having two or even three boys to work around the house would mean a lighter work load for each of them and more time for play. It would also mean a spotless house, even if each of them could only serve one afternoon or evening a week. This is all a good thing. The others are not as open in their nature as boy is - and yes, that is what I shall be calling him while he serves me. If I decide to keep him after he has proven himself as a worker, he shall be known as Dragon's boy when we mix in the local bdsm scene.
But I suspect their wariness is natural wariness in a potentially risky situation rather than 'hiding something' wariness. To make sure I am simply taking longer in my negotiations with them until I am sure they are sincere. There is no rush. Finding a good boy is not easy and even a good boy may not automatically suit me, or me suit him.
I do think though that I have found a gem with boy. Tomorrow shall be the real test though. Words are cheap. Actions speak volumes. I shall keep you all informed!
Red
