A note on etiquette

[ms_interpret]

I think it is supremely rude to filter someone out of everything you write. If you don't want them to read what your write on LJ, remove them from your list. If you want to read their stuff, but don't want them to read yours, you're an asshole. kthnkxbye. Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out!

Comments

[hitchhiker]

that's actually lj's fault - there's no reason including someone's public posts on your aggregated page should give them access to your locked posts. the former is purely client-side; you are taking publicly available material and putting it in a more readable form. ideally it should be possible to not even notify the other person that you have done so.

[ms_interpret]

Maybe, but if two people both make everything "friends-only", and one of those people filters their writing to "friends-only minus certain people including person two", then that's assholery.

I agree with you that LJ should change things to make that possible, but at this point, friending someone and then making it impossible for them to read anything you write (and I mean anything at all!) is just plain rude.

[pauamma]

You can achieve that using fgroups, actually. Just create a group called "readers" (or whatever) for what you want to share and post your entries to that group instead of making them FO, and create a group called "Default View" (fixed name) for users/communities you want to see on your fpage. (You need to add people to your flist before you can add them to a group, but if you use the above method, "flist" just means "people whose name show on my profile".)

[hitchhiker]

yeah, but then those people get notified that i have them "friended", whereas ini theory it could be a totally transparent operation

[kandi_bomber]

hm, so who is the asshole?

[nanassi]

I've had this happen a few times. People wanting to act all friendly, but really they are just wanting to show off their own long friend's list. (Pitiful)

I semi regularly put out a note asking for responses from people reading me. I find the a-hole types you mention don't respond, and I then drop them.

I still find it reflective of a high-school popularity contest when someone gets me on their flist just to make their list longer.

No, thanks. ....

[j3nny3lf]

I didn't do it! I just remove people when they piss me off. ;)