On missed connections and "sealing the deal"

[mumbly_joe]

And, okay, not literally in the sense that I'm talking about getting a girl that that I'm attracted to into bed, though I suppose it's worth noting that that particular set of challenges are certainly a subset of the issues I'm going to be talking about. Or, at very least, very strongly related.

Comments

[prisminawindow]

I'm not great at this either, but a few thoughts

[deanominator]

I meet a lot of my friends through preexisting friends. Having a friend in common means we end up hanging out together enough times to become friends ourselves. If you're starting from a position of not having many friends where you live, that doesn't help much

[sildra]

I think the way most real people do this isn't with random strangers, it's with people they already have a way of running into repeatedly. Most of my parents' friends are colleagues, former colleagues, people from synagogue, people from their old synagogue, parents of my siblings' and my childhood friends, and people who were originally friends-of-friends (where the connection came through one of these groups). And most of those people's friends, in turn, are people they met similar ways